THE BIG "D"---i never thought it would be me:(

[HellHound]

Cults are a nasty business.

Trust no church that involves prophetesses

sounds like a cult wacko

I would like to take this moment to object to this abuse of cults and those of us directly involved in them. I believe that a VERY negative stereotype is being propagated here that can be harmful to those of us who have been directly involved in the formation of religios organizations that were deemed to be cults (although the one I started is no longer a cult according to any listings I can find, we used to be).

 

[alsih2o]

I would like to take this moment to object to this abuse of cults and those of us directly involved in them. I believe that a VERY negative stereotype is being propagated here that can be harmful to those of us who have been directly involved in the formation of religios organizations that were deemed to be cults (although the one I started is no longer a cult according to any listings I can find, we used to be).

You forgot the bigger distinction here, HH.

You have healthy, happy, well-adjusted gelflings. I think you are seeing a concern for the child and projecting it onto yourself. Most if not all of these folks are saying these things (imho) because of the child and concerns there.

Go hug a gelfling and remember we all like you a lot.

 

[I'm A Banana]

Though in truth "Cult" is a derogatory term placed on a lot of faiths. So it's probably best to avoid the labeling and suchlike, ne?

Though it is still probably quite important to note that your ex-wife will call in these reinforcements, if they're a close-knit group.

 

[HellHound]

You forgot the bigger distinction here, HH.

I agree, Clay.

I was just trying to add a moment of levity as well as prop up my old claim to fame as the founder of a cult.

 

[ForceUser]

Those of us who have gone through a divorce feel your pain. Hang in there.

- If you have suggested therapy, and she has rejected the idea, she's done. Don't whine or beg, don't try to win her back, don't try and do anything and everything to make her happy. In the end, you'll be the one who hurts.

I agree. However, think about getting counseling for yourself, my friend. Just for you. Not because you're crazy, but because you're going through a very difficult time, and having a neutral third party to talk to can help immensely by speeding the recovery process.

 

[BiggusGeekus]

think about getting counseling for yourself, my friend. Just for you. Not because you're crazy, but because you're going through a very difficult time, and having a neutral third party to talk to can help immensely by speeding the recovery process.

It'll also give you the chance to blow off steam. Anything you do in front of your wife or kid can and will be used against you in divorce court. You will need someone, and not just a drinking buddy, to help you do this in a productive manner. Otherwise your wife will manipulate you into screwing up and building her cause.

Depression is no thing to mess with. It can easily feed on itself and make more problems for you. This is going to be a rough time. We're all with you, but a professional concilor who is a good match for you is invaluable (you may not strike gold on the first try, just a caveat there).

And get a lawyer.

Good luck.

 

[Mystery Man]

4)Wont have to deal with my ex's user friends (yippie! )

Find a good lawyer, one the specializes in fathers rights and sue for sole custody. You'll have to pay up big time but that should give her a nice dose of reality. Sounds to me like she's choosing drugs over you if she wouldn't even consider counseling.

Believe me.

And watch her like a hawk.

 

[Mercule]

Get a lawyer or specialized counselor. You need an advisor. Make sure it's someone extremely well versed in the particulars of family/divorce law.

Check your options. I ran across a statistic that most dads who seek custody of their kids get it. The reason why most moms end up with custody is that the dads assume they don't stand a chance and give up. Double check that, but don't throw away what you really want based on assumptions (at least, I assume you want custody). Get the facts.

Beyond that, take your lawyer's advice. Something sounds very, very fishy in this whole scenario. You really, really need someone in your corner.

 

[Mystery Man]

Beyond that, take your lawyer's advice. Something sounds very, very fishy in this whole scenario. You really, really need someone in your corner.

Indeed.

 

[alsih2o]

I agree, Clay.

I was just trying to add a moment of levity as well as prop up my old claim to fame as the founder of a cult.

We need a "swoosh, over my head" smiley.