The group is fallin apart! Help.

[Outcast]

We play for a couple of years now. But lately everything is going the wrong way.
Everyone in our group are close friends but lately one of the players isnt as interested anymore and really irritated others.
When someone died he was made fun of, roleplaying was for idiots and so on. Last time it was to much for me and i was really pissed and made it clear that if he doesnt behave otherwise he doesnt have to come to play.
The result is that the group sort of fell apart. Some players feel that friendship comes before D&D, and sure they are right on that one. But a fact is that that player really annoyed most of us and i really dont want to lose my hobby. Some of us want to play again but we have not enough players now and others think that playing again without him isnt an option, however i feel otherwise. How do you handle this kind of situations ?
Help me , ty.

Outcast (the dutch guy)

 

[Gargoyle]

Try taking a break from the game for a few weeks or more. Let tempers cool. If you played for 2 years, chances are that you'll get a game back together again.

In the meantime, you can work on a new campaign setting, or catch up on some reading. Taking a break from playing isn't the same thing as giving up your hobby.

 

[Ravellion]

Well, quite the problem... but quite the friend he is if he constantly bugs his other friends while they are busy with their hobby. I don't like watching football, but I don't block the screen when some of my friends want to watch (and they invite me to have some beers and to have someone to talk to during half time ).

I think that's probably the way to go at it - Sure friendship goes before D&D, but an inherent part of friendship is respect - which he doesn't seem to show. Just have a good talk. If he continues to be a pain about it, he might just be a pain, period.

Rav

And you are far from the only Dutch guy here.

 

[alsih2o]

to keep the game going...

switch d.m.'s, switch systems, resolve your conflict with your friend, advertise locally for another player, or find another solution.

you are right, friendship ranks over gaming, but there is a way to save you game. you just have to find it

 

[Wicht]

Plan on having adventures with fewer PC's - as DM adjust encounters accordingly. Plan on other activities you can then do with your other friend. Gmaing's not for everyone and not every friend has to be involved in every activity you participate in.

 

[Fenes 2]

As long as there are 2 players and a DM you can game. I have made only positive experiences with a small group. The PCs have more "screentime" and "spotlighttime", splitting up the party is not that bad a drain on the attentions of the group, there are more niches for the players to fill without competing against other players, therefore less balancing is required by the DM. You can give more attention to individual PCs, which is always a good thing imho, and the plots tend to become more personal as well (you do not have to juggle that many individual motivations when designing adventures).

 

[Outcast]

Thx guys

Thx guys, we are coming together later on and discuss some things, i really appreciate the help and advice you are giving me ,ty.

 

[EricNoah]

Can I ask the ages of the players in question? That might help make some sense of the situation -- I know from my own experience that I went through a time or two in my life where D&D, as fun as it was, went down to toward the bottom of my priority list.

 

[Outcast]

Sure

I'm the DM and my age is 27, the others are 24, 3x 23 and 1 is 22 i guess

 

[EricNoah]

For me it was the years right around 17-20 when D&D didn't "matter" as much to me as, say, meeting girls. That's probably a different "problem" than what you're experiencing. Good luck with your discussion.