The connecting factor is that I'm open for new ideas and to have my mind changed. Despite what others might think of me being an unmoving, martial-hating witch who only seeks to invalidate everything from the other side, I've actually gained deeper insight throughout this exceptionally long thread.
I'm thinking that maybe someone will say something I haven't heard before or say it in a way that let's me interpret it differently. I think never listening to the other side, even when you disagree, is more wrong than any rebuttal that can be made.