Update -- Gaming wives, the ongoing saga!

[Psion]

Well, as long as we are here, I'll post a mini-update as well.

We played the second session of NeMoren's Vault. We had a slightly different setup because we switched nights so one more player would be available, and the other half of one of our husband/wife teams came due to behind the scenes deal making. So the group ended up being (sorry, new group, don't have all the names down yet:

- Myrana, Female Elf Cleric of Corellon (my wife's character)
- Elspeth, Female Human Fighter (two fisted fighter type)
- Human male rogue with a hideous initiative bonus
- Lit, Male Grey Elf Wizard (minmaxed with Spellcating Prodigy )
- Male Dwarf Barbarian

They ventured more into NeMoren's vault, drove out the hobgoblin clan, and encountered a powerful burrowing creature. My wife had a little more fun this time, and the game seemed to flow a little better. She seemed to have more of a grip about what was going on and seemed a little more comfortable.
This week, I hope to be able to more explicitly define some of her background so once the vault is done, I can introduce her to some gaming a little more involved in the backgrounds of the characters instead of staight up dungeon crawls.

 

[Desdichado]

Thanks, mmadsen!

 

[Scribe Ineti]

What a great thread...

A week into my relationship with my now-fiancee, I discovered she was a gamer. I was quick to get her into my SW game, and things are great.

I think it's great hearing about other spouses who share the hobby. Once upon a time when I was a lad, I thought RPGs were for boys only. Darn glad I was proven wrong.

 

[mmadsen]

Thanks, mmadsen!

You're quite welcome, JD!

However, my wife tells me she would be much more interested in something not so overtly fantasy. If I did a CoC-ish game that felt kinda like the X-files for instance (her example) she'd probably enjoy it a lot more.

Well there you go! Give that a try. Besides, that copy of d20 CoC is probably whispering to you, asking to be played...

 

[Desdichado]

Probably! That copy of CcC is my friend's, though, not mine! If I could get them to try that game out...

But for now, they're mostly all interested in D&D. We'll see how it all shakes out.

 

[Ralts Bloodthorne]

SemperJase: I wish I was in your shoes! My wife has certainly been invited.

However, my wife tells me she would be much more interested in something not so overtly fantasy. If I did a CoC-ish game that felt kinda like the X-files for instance (her example) she'd probably enjoy it a lot more.

On the plus side, she likes the big groups. She's really more interested in the hanging out with friends aspect of it than the nitty-gritty of the game. Then again, we played with four married couples, and almost all the wives felt that way!

My wife and I play together. She'd play a little before with some friends, but never really played all that much. When we got married, she understood real quick that Fri and Sat, I wasn't out going to the strip clubs, or out to the bar, I was kicked back in a friend's frontroom behind the DM's screen (House rule is that there is NO drinking, since most of us are recovering alcoholics) and not getting into trouble.

Now, enough rambling.
She likes the creepy investigation stuff, right. The X-Files stuff. Talk to some of your players, see if they mind readjusting the campaign a bit, try something new. There are a ton of plots you can weave that have the PC's are investigating, and nobody in the organization they work in/for believes them.

Now, I saw that some people think that wife/husband teams aren't fair to the other players. That's just as stereotypical as saying all gamers are 95lb Ichabod Crane look-a-like's who have never seen a naked member of the opposite sex, and who might have a nodding aquiantance with soap. I actually had my players tell me that I wasn't cutting my wife enough slack, and when my wife GM's Shadowrun, I have more penalties and problems than everyone else.

I'm lucky. My wife not only loves gaming, she's taken delight in helping me flesh out my homebrewed campaign world, and sometimes, when we have free time, she pulls out a character from a group that we left behind when we left TX, and we play one on one.
She likes that, because she has had that character for over 8 years, and she (the character) is one of the "Epic" movers and shakers in the world. Things she does have repercussions on the PC's lives, and the other players like that for some reason.
Spouses gaming is great.

 

[Desdichado]

Actually, we'll probably start a new campaign that's designed from the ground up to be a long-term campaign. One of the other guys will DM for a while on his own. He's already thinking of adding some "X-files"-ish elements.

And let me get this straight: you left Texas and went to Hell? Actually, I could claim that: I left Texas and went to Michigan! True, I don't actually live in Hell, MI, but I have visited it. And the rest of Michigan ain't that pretty either!

 

[Henry]

Kinda funny though, if you think about it: aren't you the one who just discovered the "furry" community?

Believe me - the irony was running through my head when she was first telling me her character concept!

By the way, wish your wife the best for me! My wife hasn't had time to play again yet, but she's asking to ever since, and with a little luck, she may want to come to our regular sessions!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I think you should definately have her join it. I was a "gaming girlfriend" for some 5 years and neither of the two guys I was with in that time span would let me play with their groups. I say go for it. Teach the kids too, if they are old enough. It's a great way to bond with your family and plus it gets their imaginations off to a good start

-Esme

 

[Davelozzi]

On topic:

My wife plays in our campaign. She put a lot of work into her character design and has one of the best backgrounds in the game - lots of juicy plot ideas. I love having her play.

Off topic:

But we just did a weekend one-shot at the FLGS

Storm, what's the FLGS up in the Tewksbury area? I'm always on the lookout for new gaming stores to check out in and around Massachusetts.

Even more off topic:
Any of you LDS folks, I'm wondering if you can enlighten me. I've been seeing a lot of Mormons around the city with Elder nametags on but most of them are pretty young guys, so I gather that age doesn't have much to do with Elder status. So what does it mean to be an Elder in the Church? Just curious.