Queen_Dopplepopolis
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*shoves her ego behind her back* I don't know what you're talking about!Lady_Acoma said:Not at all big headed either...
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When will my group ever accept me?
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Mystery Man
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Maybe you all just need a good cry. 
Joël of the FoS
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Well, as other people said, if you enjoy the games, stay. If not, leave as you will only get bitterness out of it.
I'd also talk to the annoying girl and tell her that you'd like her to get off your back as you're here for fun, as all the others do. Ask your DM to be part of this discussion too - you need support in this from the highest level in your team.
Joël
I'd also talk to the annoying girl and tell her that you'd like her to get off your back as you're here for fun, as all the others do. Ask your DM to be part of this discussion too - you need support in this from the highest level in your team.
Joël
Somehow, it is comforting to see that this sort of typical primate behavior affects everyone just about equally.
It is somewhat less comforting that we just don't learn.
There's the strong temptation to suggest you get a moderately powerful paintball gun and shoot her with it every time she makes one of these wisecracks. It might or might not stop her, but it'd be satisfying.
Yes, it'd be satisfying. I'm a monkey too
It is somewhat less comforting that we just don't learn.
There's the strong temptation to suggest you get a moderately powerful paintball gun and shoot her with it every time she makes one of these wisecracks. It might or might not stop her, but it'd be satisfying.
Yes, it'd be satisfying. I'm a monkey too
Thornir Alekeg
Albatross!
Ahh, one of the more unique aspects of gaming: taking people that never would hang out together socially, and putting them into a social situation.
All I can say is, talk to the players in your group. Try not to be confrontational about it, just ask if they think you have done something to offend them, and let them know that you enjoy gaming with them, but the personal attacks bother you.
If they persist, then I would seriously ask myself if gaming with them is so good that you think it is worth the personal suffering. You may think you can handle them putting you down repeatedly, but it will affect you, and probably not in positive ways.
All I can say is, talk to the players in your group. Try not to be confrontational about it, just ask if they think you have done something to offend them, and let them know that you enjoy gaming with them, but the personal attacks bother you.
If they persist, then I would seriously ask myself if gaming with them is so good that you think it is worth the personal suffering. You may think you can handle them putting you down repeatedly, but it will affect you, and probably not in positive ways.
Sorry, but this sounds similar to words I've heard from women with boyfriends/husbands who abused them. Don't ever think you deserve to be treated poorly.Raven Wintervale said:
UniversalMonster
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Nerdabee is ouch. That seems a bit hurtful.
In another thread you are thinking about trying out the DM job, which I applaud.
I would form a new group if I wanted to continue gaming, but I didn't want the trouble of these girls. There will probably be some Napoleon Dynamite character around who will want to join, anyhow.
But like in Mean Girls, maybe there is a value in toughing it out- not like I'd know anything about the dynamic of an all female high school D&D group.
Whatever you decide, there's always Enworld!
In another thread you are thinking about trying out the DM job, which I applaud.
I would form a new group if I wanted to continue gaming, but I didn't want the trouble of these girls. There will probably be some Napoleon Dynamite character around who will want to join, anyhow.
But like in Mean Girls, maybe there is a value in toughing it out- not like I'd know anything about the dynamic of an all female high school D&D group.
Whatever you decide, there's always Enworld!
This like many things has to be wieghed out in your mind. Just ask yourself if it is worth it to play. Sounds like your having fun except for this one point but sometimes that one pointcan be enough to ruin the rest of the fun. Some people seem to think gaming should be all fun all the time. So far no hobby is like that but is the fun worth the hassle.
Also remember you are responsible only for the way you act and not the way other people do. In every aspect of life you will meet *Difficult* people
And last but not least you teach people how to treat you. If you allow people to use you or abuse you. They learn that this is acceptable behaviour. So to address this specific event simple look them in the eye, without anger or meanness and maybe even with a please and say " I don't appreciate being called that" say it each and everytime. Eventually the point will get across and either they will quit or switch to another tactic depending on how *Difficlut* they are.
Later and good luck
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*Difficult* meaning people who are nasty words we don't use here at enworld but some of those words start with an A, Some with a B, and some even with a C when they are really difficult.
Also remember you are responsible only for the way you act and not the way other people do. In every aspect of life you will meet *Difficult* people
And last but not least you teach people how to treat you. If you allow people to use you or abuse you. They learn that this is acceptable behaviour. So to address this specific event simple look them in the eye, without anger or meanness and maybe even with a please and say " I don't appreciate being called that" say it each and everytime. Eventually the point will get across and either they will quit or switch to another tactic depending on how *Difficlut* they are.
Later and good luck
PS
*Difficult* meaning people who are nasty words we don't use here at enworld but some of those words start with an A, Some with a B, and some even with a C when they are really difficult.
Raven Wintervale
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Wow! I'm amazed by the outpouring of advice, suggestions and just palin honest to goodness support, I've gotten on this thread. I mean you people don't even know me yet, you've all pitched in with support. Thank you so much!
I've thought a lot about it I think i'll just confront her with it. I know our DM and a few of the other players will support me, so I'll just lay it on the line and tell her off. I don't want to have to leave the group but many of you are right, if I'm not having fun there then what's the point. Maybe the DM and I can talk a couple of the other player (the ones who've stopped giving me a hard time) and form a smaller group which mean we could play somewhere else.
Thanks again for all your help
I've thought a lot about it I think i'll just confront her with it. I know our DM and a few of the other players will support me, so I'll just lay it on the line and tell her off. I don't want to have to leave the group but many of you are right, if I'm not having fun there then what's the point. Maybe the DM and I can talk a couple of the other player (the ones who've stopped giving me a hard time) and form a smaller group which mean we could play somewhere else.
Thanks again for all your help
Rel
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Raven Wintervale said:Wow! I'm amazed by the outpouring of advice, suggestions and just palin honest to goodness support, I've gotten on this thread. I mean you people don't even know me yet, you've all pitched in with support. Thank you so much!
ENWorld is pretty much like this every day of the week. Welcome and enjoy.
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