Woohoo, I think! (was: Advice Please?)
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DaveStebbins
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Eight years is such an incredibly small difference if you two get along and enjoy each other's company. Do not let a chronological difference in your head interfere with what your heart tells you to do.
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Andrew D. Gable
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Angcuru said:
Add another year both ways and you'd be right. She's 19, I'm 27.
LightPhoenix
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While I do agree in theory that eight years isn't really that much, for people as young as we are (I'm 24) eight years is a big difference, psychologically.
For one thing, someone who is 19 has a vastly different outlook on life than someone who is 27. Most (because really, what we are talking about here is most, not all) people who are 27 are somewhat ready to settle down in some aspect or aspects. This isn't necessarily relationship-wise, although that is certainly one aspect. For an example of another aspect, you may be willing to settle economically, deciding on what career you want to persue for the rest of your life.
That example really highlights the difference between the two ages. Someone who is 19 usually doesn't look to the future, but is more steeped in the present. People who are 19 aren't thinking about any sort of settling, any sort of permanence. It's an age when people generally are very unsettled - it's when most of us experiment to a great degree.
It's also why the difference between 30 and 38 is much different than 19 and 27. The 30/38-year old couple are both in a stage of life where they are both more steeped in permanence than change. Of course, they'll have their own problems once the 38-year old hits the mid-life crisis.
I would be extremely wary of going into this thinking that it is going to be a long-term relationship. On the other hand, if you're just looking to have a little fun, hell, have a little fun. What ultimately counts in the end is if the time you spend with her (or anyone) makes you happy, whether things work out in the end or not.
For one thing, someone who is 19 has a vastly different outlook on life than someone who is 27. Most (because really, what we are talking about here is most, not all) people who are 27 are somewhat ready to settle down in some aspect or aspects. This isn't necessarily relationship-wise, although that is certainly one aspect. For an example of another aspect, you may be willing to settle economically, deciding on what career you want to persue for the rest of your life.
That example really highlights the difference between the two ages. Someone who is 19 usually doesn't look to the future, but is more steeped in the present. People who are 19 aren't thinking about any sort of settling, any sort of permanence. It's an age when people generally are very unsettled - it's when most of us experiment to a great degree.
It's also why the difference between 30 and 38 is much different than 19 and 27. The 30/38-year old couple are both in a stage of life where they are both more steeped in permanence than change. Of course, they'll have their own problems once the 38-year old hits the mid-life crisis.
I would be extremely wary of going into this thinking that it is going to be a long-term relationship. On the other hand, if you're just looking to have a little fun, hell, have a little fun. What ultimately counts in the end is if the time you spend with her (or anyone) makes you happy, whether things work out in the end or not.
Angcuru
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On the contrary, mister Flaming Canary, most 19 years olds I know are quite future-oriented and willing to commit, while most 30 year old I know are wild and untamed, living for the moment. But then again, I live in Central New Jersey, the Armpit of the US, where nothing is as it should be. 
But Hey, I think this girl would realise that he's serious when she gave him her number. Otherwise, Mister Gable here could be in for a simple streak of fun.
But Hey, I think this girl would realise that he's serious when she gave him her number. Otherwise, Mister Gable here could be in for a simple streak of fun.
Krieg
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While LightPhoenix may be exagerating the issue a bit, he does have a valid point.
If you do start seeing this girl, you are going to find that there are things that she looks at very differently than you. While this is the case in most relationships, the age difference will exacerbate it somewhat.
If you do start seeing this girl, you are going to find that there are things that she looks at very differently than you. While this is the case in most relationships, the age difference will exacerbate it somewhat.
Viking Bastard
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19 & 27? Well, there's a rule. Divide your age by two and add seven. If
she's younger in years than the outcome of that, she's too young for you
and you're a pervert. Else, knock yourself out.
27 divided by two is 13 1/2, plus seven it's 20 1/2.
GASP! You should be ashamed of yourself!
she's younger in years than the outcome of that, she's too young for you
and you're a pervert. Else, knock yourself out.
27 divided by two is 13 1/2, plus seven it's 20 1/2.
GASP! You should be ashamed of yourself!
