There is going to be an ongoing tension between the micro of the culture of your game table and the macro of the culture of the hobby overall. This is further complicated by the conflation of internet game culture with actual game culture. While the internet allows for some very engaging discourse, it's lack of guardrails allows for many bad actors to have an outsized impact on said discourse.
There is a longstanding obsession in geek circles with "cannon". When the publishers of a longstanding property make changes, well change upsets some people. Moreso, many people don't like learning that something they enjoy causes offense or even harm to others. The reasonable, mature response is to listen and when needed, to make changes. The immature one is to double down and defend one's "right" to insult or harm others.
Run your table how you see fit yes, but always be willing to ask "who will my table attract and who will it turn away" and see how happy you are with those answers. Like calls to like.