Vorian explains
I re-read Vorians post and don't find it so extensively offensive. Pushy yes, but he didn't say anything about judgement or anything elses
But, still I'd like to explain:
As I see Vorian, he asked it dettached while surveying preparation for battle below, not as prying question but as discovering in advance potential strategic threat. He would probably snap out of planning and be confused at the allegation for a moment before his 'normal' behavior re-establishes and he apologizes for callousness...
He follows Lady Chess and I see him as having three 'operational modes'.
One, protector of the Lands in which he is noble knight, helping weak, defending helpless etc.
(his good side)
Second, strategist in which he is cold and calculating, ready to send men to die or lead the charge himself if that is needed to insure victory. Having his Good side, he preffers not to do it if there is other way even if it means spending more time or resources, but he would do it if needed.
In this, human feelings play only small part and he is wont to ignore both his diplomatic training and potential hurt feelings by those around him in interest of brevity and succintness. (his neutral side)
Third, he is diplomat, knight negotiator, honorable, accepting and just, but unyielding in following orders and hard against breaking the rules... (his lawful side)
Hm, multiple personality disorder? :\