Hriston
Dungeon Master of Middle-earth (He/him)
I didn't think it necessary, as you already did in your prior post.
But I hadn't actually. I'd called it out in a passive/aggressive way, which I have a tendency to do without thinking. To address it directly would have felt like I was admitting being annoyed by it, which I didn't want to do. But you're right. It's better to be direct.
As for the optional rule/house rule conversation, which is pretty much a ridiculous topic to care or fret about.. House rules are created by the table to modify a game beyond given rules within official sourcebooks. I would rule that using a sidebar optional rule isn't a houserule, as it is still provided by the rules. But that also doesn't mean it HAS to be used, like some DMs say, and force every letter down their table's throats. Now, using those optional rules out of context is, of course, a house ruling.
Everything isn't black and white. Some things are in the middle, but people like to think simple.
I'm not sure if any of this is directed at me, as I haven't said whether I think the decision to use an optional rule is a houserule, but to weigh in, I agree that if you got it from a book it's not a houserule. Also, I think some people, on this thread and others, are calling the way other people choose to play "house ruling" as a way of belittling or delegitemizing their preferences. Optional rules are options contained within the game and are distinct from house-rules, which are made up at the table. The fact they are optional means of course you don't have to use them. The game works just fine without them, because they aren't part of the default "standard" rules. What I've pointed out is that the use of this particular optional rule doesn't change the way the default rules operate one bit. It's simply a case of the DM granting advantage in a circumstance s/he decides is advantageous to one party over another. Them's the rules.