You don't consider having your strength lowered because you are playing a female character a penalty?
Okay...
Anyway, here is one article (of many) which explains why and how D&D 5e has become more friendly to people other than straight white men.
http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/dungeons-and-dragons-has-caught-up-with-third-wave-feminism-827
Well, the article is full of agression and derogative terms toward males and roleplayers, thank you.
"Hey, did you know that D&D isn't played just by unattractive women? Fair-looking girls with plenty of social life play it too! Even celebrities, like XY metal diva!"
Does it sound good? No? I thought so.
But.
It depends on how much "realistic" you want the game to be? IF you want more realism, women should not be
penalized in str, but should have a lower str cap than men, in the upper echelons (like 18+, which is the highest humanly possible - sorry, but watch any lifting sport), because that's just biology. However women should have higher caps in con, or dex, I think or higher starting numbers in those.
Just as fantasy races aren't equal in everything, all have their strengths and weaknesses, real world sexes too.
You
could say that said fantasy races, like dwarves, or elves, or half-orcs don't have these sexual dimorphism, just as not every animal species have them. Some do, some don't. You
also could say, that in this fantasy world, humans don't have this either. It's perfectly okay.
I also think it should not restrict any character concepts, because fighting has many variables and strength helps, but it's far, far from everything and weapons are great equalizers, but D&D doesn't really handling this well, especially 5e, where your ability score is far the most important factor. But yeah, ReD Sonja would still have a harder time lifting the fallen column from his comrade than Conan, because, while both are pure muscle and at the peak of human physicality, Conan is still has 20+ kilogramms of more pure muscle. Although she might have a very even footing against Conan in a sword-fight, even having other possible advantages over him.
Or, Brienne of Tarth might be even in strength with the hound, or Brom, or Jamie or even stronger than some of them, but she certainly isn't on par with the Mountain. If 20 is the natural highest, I'll stat Brienn and the former guys around 17-18, because they are strong and accostumed to fighting, riding wearing armour and so. I'll stat the Mountain at 20, or even 21-22, because he's somewhat an abomination a little bit, so I'll give him a feat for that, or something.
But honestly? Why bother with it? Unnecessary complication of the rules with the potential of angering people like you apparently. Just lump humans together and call it a day, everyone's happy. But sorry, it's nothing new to 5e, as i recall it has been this way at least since 2000, since 3e.
I think more girls and women playing D&D exactly because of the reason why generally more people playing D&D lately. It got more mainstream recognition because of the success of IPs like GoT and the myriad historical dramas and movies, like LotR and Hobbit and PotC and so on. Fantasy and swords are cool now. The historical swordfighting movement experienced the same surge. Also, geek subculture is hip and cool now, so the whole hobby is considered less as a stinky nerd neckbeards in the basement with no lives thing just as many other aspects of geekness. Just as Vampire did hit the zeitgeist of the 90's and I have to say there were (are?) as many girls than guys in the local Vampire LARP community, even among the organizers.
On the flipside, I could relate to the notion, that mainly illustration-wise the older books were fairly sexist, but i think it's a chicken or egg question which was first, the change of this or the surge of interest from women? And the older books were the products of their age, where everything looked that way, book covers, musical album covers, movie posters and I don't want to talk about comics.
Please consider the slight chance that maybe, just maybe, not everything is about, or because of, or in the sake of progressive/radical gender ideology or 3rd wave feminism, or other liberal thoughts. I say this as an honestly liberal guy, who hates the "girls go back to the kitchen" and other








and who stress equality, equal rights and chances between all kind of people and who believes in women could be anything they want. I just don't like, when anger and the rightful desire for equality overrides facts and commons sense and colors basically every-




ing-thing.