Humans are mediocre and prosaic. Not the stuff of fantasy.
On the one hand: what a perverse way to look at
anything that exists in the real world, least of all humans.
On the other: the mediocre and prosaic make the
best fantasy protagonists precisely because of that fact.
I always ask then, what are you replacing elves with?
My biggest pet peeve is when a DM takes away an option but doesn't replace it with anything. You want to make elves mysterious and unheard of? Fine. What race are you adding to make up for the loss of an iconic race? Maybe someone who wants to be an ethereal magical being could select aasimar, or someone wanting to be a nature guardian can take firbolg. If you're not allowing drow, maybe another "dark" race can fill that role like tiefling, shadar-kai (human variant) or such. No orcs? How about goliath as the bruiser race?
Unfortunately, time and again in this thread, the alternative to the removed race is nothing. There are no fey races. There are no PC monstrous races. There are no planar races. There are no animal races. There are no aquatic races.
That's what I think is my issue. When whole categories of races are cut off and that limits your types of options. It's less about a specific race, and often more about the archetype being removed that bothers me.
"More options" are not a universal good. The ability to create a wide variety of archetypical player characters in an RPG is not a universal good. You value these things; you cannot assume we all value them.
Why do people keep thinking that brining of Call of Cthulhu is relevant? Just because it is another game?
It is December now, holiday season. That means I want Egg Nog. Egg Nog is a big part of the holiday season for me. Do I want Egg Nog all year? No, but in December it is time for Egg Nog.
Would I be upset if Egg Nog wasn't offered at a 4th of July party? No, that'd be silly, it is the wrong time of year. Would I be mildly upset about going to a 4th of July party with no fireworks of any type? Yes, because that is part of the point of the celebration.
So, no, I don't get upset that Call of Chthulu is Call of Cthulu and not DnD. But if I'm playing DnD.... I'd like to play DnD.
If you really need the point to be spoon-fed to you, okay. Some of us keep brining up elves in CoC and dwarves in V:tM to drive home what is to us an obvious and absurd contradiction. If you do not mind a group of players with no elves in their Cthulhu game and you do not mind a group of players with no dwarves in their Vampire game, you do not have any grounds on which to take issue with a group of players with no elves or dwarves in their D&D game. This—
—is
not a sufficient reason to just outright assume or expect the presence of elves, dwarves, wizards, or even dragons.
There are more ways in heaven and earth to play D&D than are dreamt of in your philosophy, and if you do not like other people playing D&D without the dragons (or whatever),
tough noogies. You're not the D&D police.
Everything being optional doesn't mean that a game about fantasy races shouldn't have any fantasy races.
D&D is not a game "about" fantasy races. It's "about" whatever the hell we want it to be. When I play, it's "about" hex-crawling and dungeon-crawling. When most other people play, it's "about" their
le epic story, or "about" their
pretend-to-be-an-elf uniqueness/power fantasy, or "about" their
getting away with Chaotic Stupid shenanigans, or a million other unrelated things.
Jeff Rients once gave the pithy description, "You play Conan, I play Gandalf. We team up to fight Dracula." That doesn't encapsulate D&D for me personally (I prefer the even pithier "We explore dungeons, not characters"), but it's punchy enough that I do like to quote it.