I'm starting to believe that you don't read posts.
Ideal, Bonds and Flaws are identical.
Only the alignment is different. Just that part shows how with identical Ideal, Bonds and Flaws, two different alignement will change drastically how the characters will be played. So yes, I did prove my point. You just can't see it because you don't read through the posts and when you do, you twist the meaning to suit YOUR point of view regardless of what is actually proven.
As was said by
@pemerton and
@PsyzhranV2 , the bonds and ideals are not the same, unless you twist and stretch them.
I mean, the bond was the King right?
Now, sure, you could write "The King" and then leave it at that. But, if we look at a real example from the Player's Handbook, such as the Acolyte, we see this "I owe my life to the priest who took me in when my parents died. "
That is a full sentence, describing the relationship. So, good paladin would have something like "I would lay down my life for the King." while evil paladin would have something like "I serve the king until I can overthrow him". Which, again, are very different statements.
And if you need a "but then" twist to fully understand your bond, then you are just twisting and breaking it to try and make yourself right.
I did and even gave how to role play the difference.
Ideal: I will defend the weak.
Bond: My king.
Flaw: Lack of humility.
Both paladin, twins if you want and one evil the other is not. I clearly shown how alignment will help differentiate both characters in their approach and yet, to "justify" that I am wrong, I am told that I twist the ideal and bond to no end... A LE is already twisted. I did nothing out of the ordinary and yet those against alignment do want to acknowledge that I did do it.
To quote myself
This exemple is a RP of two characters with exactly the same ideal, bonds and flaw. They are twins. One is good the other is evil. This is on the sheet, the only difference. Yet, the alignment gives a nice twist to the second that opponents to alignement refuse to acknowledge. If that is not enough for you nothing ever will.
Yeah, see, you did it right there. You made the bond "My King". Two words. The Flaw is three. You are simplifying these down until they are completely unclear, then clarifying them, and pointing to alignment as the difference.
I mean, heck, let me do the exact same thing, with real flaws from the book.
Simplified version
Acolyte - "Inflexible Thinking"
Soldier - "Inflexible Thinking"
Folk Hero - "Inflexible Thinking"
Hermit - "Inflexible Thinking"
What it actually says
Acolyte - My piety sometimes leads me to blindly trust those that profess faith in my god.
Soldier - My hatred of my enemies is blind and unreasoning.
Folk Hero - I’m convinced of the significance of my destiny, and blind to my shortcomings and the risk of failure.
Hermit - I am dogmatic in my thoughts and philosophy.
Do you see how these, blind faith in the church, hatred of enemies, Chosen One Syndrome, and dogmatic thinking, are all quite different flaws? And yet, I can simplify them all down to be identical? That is what you are doing.
Where did you see that defending the weak is evil? It is not. But the evil paladin will protect the weak just like the good one. Only in methods of doing it will they differ. One will be forgiving of his foes. One will try to bring them to justice.
The evil one however will do the same but with much harsher and final consequences for his foes. He will not hesitate to kill, maim, torture his foes to protect his people and his king. He will not be content to let them flee, he will actively pursue them and slay every foes that he can. No hesitations, no remorse. All that because he cares for his people, his king and that he knows it falls to him to do what others can't.
Again, everything is the same on the character's sheet but one single detail:" Alignment". Everything is perfectly plausible and works out fine as good RP. If you refuse to admit that this effect of alignment is significant, nothing will ever sway you because you are dead set in your position and you refuse to admit that you are wrong.
"Defend the Weak" is a statement that transcends nationality. Defend the weak includes defending enemy civilians who are weak.
Hunting down and killing every foe who ever raises a sword against your people and salting the earth behind you is not defending the weak. This is the mistake you are making.
Again, I think the King example is the best one. You write "My King" for both.
One is "My King, whom I would lay down my life for" the other is "My King, who I serve unless I can overthrow him and rule". Those are inherently different bonds, they only look similiar because you have simplified them to the point of a two word indication of who, with no indication towards anything else.