As mentioned, all these elements were not really well considered when I was young, and I might add in particular in France, so I never really sought help. Still, my ex-wife became more and more obsessed with this and it widened the rift between us, as she was looking for some explanation, and at the same time some of the implications of what she was saying were being said in a bit of a hurtful way as well, so it made matter worse. Which is one of the reasons I'm glad to have my partner who was way more professional about this and gave me really good advice, so maybe it can do you good as well. Good luck !