Please don't impute views and arguments to me that I've not put forth.I'm responding to the argument (mostly from @pemerton ) that, because mirroring reality isn't completely possible, then the entire concept should be abandoned
Especially in this context, where - as I already posted - I have far more experience playing RM, RQ and like systems than you do. In play D&D (in some or other version) you are the one giving up on reality, not me.
I'm confident that the fiction in my "narrative approach" RPGing that uses Burning Wheel, Torchbearer 2e, Prince Valiant and Classic Traveller is more realistic than the fiction in your D&D games.perhaps in favor of Pemerton's preferred narrative approach?
I am also confident that the fiction in my "narrative approach" 4e D&D play is as realistic as that in your D&D game. The fiction in my fantasy-variant MHRP too - it may even be more realistic.
And that's all before we start talking about hundreds of hours of Rolemaster play.