Oh, well my point is Role Playing is about playing the role...acting...as a fictional character.  Quite often the character can do things the player can't. 
But the player is the one in control.  The character might be a 41 year old trench veteran from the Second Inhuman War:  but the player is a 22 year old that works at Circle K.  So when the character acts, it's the player that is in the driver seat.
Now the player can choose to act like a "41 year old trench veteran from the Second Inhuman War", or they can "act like themselves".