Yeah, that right there is the fundamental, inoperable division I can never reconcile. If the PC is just my avatar in the game, he's a toon (in the MMO sense) and will be treated as such. His name will be Tanks For The Memories and his personality is "ROFL". I can't get past the idea that playing a character isn't actually playing a character. I don't give names and backstories to the chess pieces when I play because the epic battle between two armies of knights, queens and kings aren't the important part, the ability to outthink and outmanoeuvre my opponents using my pieces is.
Maybe that's why I can't understand it: I can't accept that Remathilis is just my pawn piece in the game rather than an actual fictional character with his own life and story.