I scored more points with the woman at work I'm talking to. I noticed her haircut and complimented her. She got a big smile and thanked me. She said she's surprised at how few noticed. I make an effort to notice these things. I know women like compliments on their shoes, hair, and/or outfit. I don't go nuts with it. I stopped at the hair. I wanted to say something about the outfit. She wore a denim jacket over a Nike tshirt. Nothing too special but on her and the way she was standing when I first saw her, she looked like a fashion model. The look worked, or at least l, it worked for me.
I keep telling myself I need to go beyond just talk. It's not easy for me. I see it as a Rubicon, no going back once you make that move. It changes everything.