Don't type out the definition of "videogamey", then. Type out your actual issues with the game. You'll have to, eventually, anyway, won't you?
Actually, I think that might be the problem. If someone says "why don't you like 4e?" and I reply "it's too video-gamey for me," then we can all agree that it reminds me of a video game to some degree, or I wouldn't use the term.
Now, you can ask me from here why I dislike the game (whatever the reason, be it balance, powers, healing surges, better starting survivability, etc.), and you can show me why they aren't like video games (or no more than, say, 3.x).
At the end of the conversation, my main problem will still be that it reminds me of video games. The explanation is just a list of how these things remind me. The entire conversation is based on my subjective opinions. You can get upset all you want, but if my mind connects "healing surge" with "4e" and "video games" then it will remind me of video games.
And that was the original complaint leveled. It wasn't "healing surges." It was "video-gamey." And that's why. It's not logical, but it's truthful.
Does this make sense? I think we can clear this one issue up, honestly. We're all intelligent people
I know some people still find the term insulting to video games, but it's not inherently, and I can go into a civil discourse on that once again if asked.
Anyways, play what you like
