A question for the ladies

[BOZ]

as for long hair being a sign of not committing, i have had lengthy locks since high school, and i proposed to my wife after knowing her for only a little over two years.

 

[fusangite]

Lets clear some air here. I have no interest in this girl.

If you had stopped here, I would have totally believed this statement. But then you said

Even if I did I could not persue her for three reasons: 1) She has a boyfriend. 2) If we started dating one or both of us could get fired/transfered. Our job just handed down new employee rules. 3) This girl so close to looks an personality to my ex that they could be related.

So it's kind of hard for me to get the warm fuzzies over her because she reminds me of the first girl I was interested in and then broke my heart.Nobody gets 100% over their first love; and you don't even sound here like a guy who has passed the 75% mark.

FYI I work at a mall based adult novelty and gift store.

That's unexpected! And it's part of a national chain with young female employees? The things one learns of ENWorld.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

My personal thoughts:

As a general rule, before I was married, I didn't date men with hair longer than mine (which, at that time, was very short for a girl... about eye-level and choppy. Very cute, but the hubby doesn't like the short hair).

Now, I don't mind a guy shaggy hair, but for the most part, I don't find men with long hair attractive. It's much too feminine for my taste.

It can be incredibly cool and rocker-tastic, but it's not something that has ever tickled my particular pink, floated my particular boat, or frosted my particular cake. Some women really dig it - I know a lot of them. I just don't happen to be one of them.

So - really - to echo what everyone else has said: it's all a matter of personal choice.

EDIT: Just wanted to say that I wasn't trying to be snippy or bitchy in the above post. I have no idea what you look like and some men look fantastic with long hair (like the announcer guy at my closest Medieval Times! Wowie! What a hottie!)... What's most important is that you be comfortable - nay, happy - with yourself.

 

[Sigdel]

If you had stopped here, I would have totally believed this statement. But then you said So it's kind of hard for me to get the warm fuzzies over her because she reminds me of the first girl I was interested in and then broke my heart. Nobody gets 100% over their first love; and you don't even sound here like a guy who has passed the 75% mark.That's unexpected! And it's part of a national chain with young female employees? The things one learns of ENWorld.

I never claimed to be over my ex. But thats a whole other story. And a rather pathetic one from my point of view. Or it's a very funny story when I put a humorous spin to it. Depends on my mood at the time.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

whats funny is that if i had any thought to cut my hair I am not going to now. It would seem like I was trying to change myself to fit her taste. Although she is attractive (on a physical level), she has some personality traits that remind me too much of my ex.

There's no need to change yourself for us women. You don't have to cut your hair. Unless you're planning to please your mother.... There's plenty of gals who dig guys with long hair. I didn't like this one ep of that makeover show on FOX where they cut just about all the hair off this one guy who had nice, long thick brown hair to his shoulders and a beard. When they got finished with him, I thought he looked better before the shearing took place.

Frankly, just be yourself.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Another idea. Is a role-play gaming forum really the best place for advice for this kind of advice.

Drop by the local game store and make some comparisons.

Or a convention. I'd rather go for a guy with hair like Sebastian Bach from Skid Row than some of those weird punk guys that go around those places.... Long hair, IMO, is better than bright blue or green hair that's spiked up and wearing pants with more buckles and straps than Micheal Jackson's jacket from his Bad album.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Don't do it, Samson! Delilah is just trying to trick you!!

Quoted for truthery!

 

[Darth K'Trava]

I'm not a lady, nor do I dress as one on Friday nights, but have you considered that the haircutting suggestion may have been a gentle way of saying "you'd look better with short hair"?

"Dude Looks Like A Lady"--> Aerosmith

Let's be serious here folks. There are some pretty nasty looking people out there, and some could use a bit if a push in the right direction. For example, I'm not great at color coordination, every once in a while, my wife will look at what I'm wearing and say "Oh hell no", and make me go change. I appreciate the input, and if I stood on a chair and preached about "not being true to myself, and not willing to change who I am", it would get old fast.

Neither is a friend of mine. He even asked me which goes with a forest green shirt: black or khaki pants... ::rolls eyes::

If I told someone discreatly, that they might want to throw on some deoderant because they have noticeable BO, and they told me that they're not willing to compromise who they are, and bend to the masses who wear deoderant, I'd tell tell them something akin to "Get bent, and join the populace of the norm, instead of the freaks".

Please don't take this as an offense, it's not directed at anyone in perticular.

Still ragging on the Gencon crowd?

 

[Darth K'Trava]

OK, I'll bite. What does no hair say?

-Dave

If you're Patrick Stewart, then women would find you sexy...

 

[Lady_Acoma]

I never claimed to be over my ex. But thats a whole other story. And a rather pathetic one from my point of view. Or it's a very funny story when I put a humorous spin to it. Depends on my mood at the time.

You know this whole thing makes me want to find you in the store I assume you work at since I am so close and see how long your hair is...