A question for the ladies

[Angel Tarragon]

I find it odd that the thread calls for ladies, and only one has responded, and she's said she's no good at being one.

Eh, to each their own.

 

[orchid blossom]

Well, I'm a lady, and at least moderately good at it.

Like others have said, long or short hair is a matter of taste. Would you get more girls interested in you if you cut it? Maybe, maybe not. But you would get a different kind of girl.

How we choose to look on the outside sends a signal to people about our personalities. If you wear nothing but tie-dyed shirts, then girls who don't like hippie-types aren't going to want to meet you. If you get a buzz cut and wear camo prints, then girls who don't like military types aren't going to want to meet you.

The good news is, you don't want to meet those particular girls either. When I see a guy with long hair, well taken care of, I generally think "A little out of the mainstream, maybe into music or art, or science fiction/fanatasy." That's because I most often see guys with long hair at events that attract artsy, sci-fi/fantasy, or gamer type people. Others might see long hair and go, "Oh, a hippie." Who knows?

The point being, be yourself and keep your hair. It's an indicator to us girls whether or not we might have something in common with you.

 

[fusangite]

This is my question, is this true? Has this been what I what I've been doing wrong? Is all I needed to do is just cut my hair to my jaw line? Or is this just the opinion of some silly girl trying to make me into something she wants?

What you have been doing wrong is reading what women say at face value. This woman isn't expressing an opinion about your hair at all; she is simply trying to flirt with you. Because your hair is distinctive and obvious, she is centring her flirting attempts around it. She's not trying to change you at all; she would probably be just as happy if you kept your hair. She's just looking for a conversational opener that allows her to use the words "you" and "sexy" in the same sentence, a challenging thing for a girl to do. If I were you, I absolutely wouldn't change the hair to anything less distinctive; otherwise you would be depriving girls in the future of the opportunity to start conversations about your appearance.

 

[Pbartender]

Something to think on...

Hairs grow back if you cut them off.
Girls don't.

If you like the girl, as she might seem to like you, go ahead and cut your hair. It'll grow back. And who knows, she might be right and you might like the change after all.

If you don't like her, and she's being a pest, then don't worry about it. Tell her to bug off and find some other guy who looks just like you with a shorter haircut. It's your hair and you don't have to cut it if you really don't want to, even though it might look better if you did.

Remember, there's being yourself, and then there's bloody-minded pig-headedness.

Finally, you might get some better advice, if you actually posted a photo of your long, blonde tresses.

 

[Xath]

I think hair reflects personality. You can tell something about a person by how much maintenance they put into their appearence and what the results are. The question is, what do you want your appearance to say about you?

 

[Kanegrundar]

Here's what I think: If you want her, flirt back with her. Find out if the hair is a deal breaker. If you don't want to be with her, ignore her. Plain. Simple. Done.

Kane

 

[Kahuna Burger]

I don't particularly like long hair on a guy because there's only two options. If he doesn't keep it nice (and I don't mean just clean and brushed, I mean having it trimmed often enough that it isn't a mass of scraggly split ends for the last 2 inches) its not very attractive. If he does keep it nice and its still longer than I could ever get mine to be while keeping it nice, I'm insanely jealous. Just a no win situation.

It is also very possible that you personally would look nicer with short hair. There's certain facial characteristics, type of hair, etc, that work for long vs short.

 

[reveal]

I suggest you drop everything and change yourself for this girl you have no interest in. So what if you've had your hair for 10 years? Next, she'll probably ask you to stop talking to your friends because it's taking away from your "together time." I say go for it!

 

[romp]

I used to have really long hair back in High School, in college I decided to cut my hair short and have tried to keep it that way as much as time and budget will allow. Being yourself is most important, but the hair will grow back, if you like her enough, try it short. Who knows, maybe short hair and the girl will be something you want to keep. If not you can let it grow back.

 

[reveal]

Something to think on...

Hairs grow back if you cut them off.
Girls don't.

...

Remember, there's being yourself, and then there's bloody-minded pig-headedness.

Yeah. There's also wanting to be with a girl who wants to date you regardless of what your hair looks like. As you've alluded to, it's only hair. If she won't date him unless he cuts his hair, than she's being pretentious and isn't worth the time.

Also, to grow his hair back to where it is now, it'll take at least 3-4 years. She just doesn't sound worth it.