Advice for Gamers in Society
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WhatGravitas
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However, there's also something about "picking your fights" - it's not like you convince other people to change their opinion on that, mainly because these things (gaming related) are not just well-reasoned statements, but instead strong opinions and/or beliefs - and there's a difference between saying "I don't share your opinion and think you're wrong" and starting an argument. After all, allowing other opinions and being able to disagree with other people in a dignified manner is a crucial social asset. And if somebody else gets vitriolic, showing class is even more important.
Well, that's probably due to your age - as you get older, you keep associating with people of your generation - the social misfits in this age are probably in their own groups and don't interact with the general public that much or have "grown up" - plus you probably tend towards places with tolerable people instinctually - RPGs, for example, are attracting less people that in the past, i.e. younger gamers end up in CCGs and stuff like that - and this way the new generation of social misfits end up there as well.
EDIT: And something else: The problem is: If you're well-adjusted, you're less likely to broadcast your gamer life all over the place - the stranger beings our hobby has produced, however, do that in a multi-sensory way that's pretty hard to overlook.
Cheers, LT.
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I have personally witnessed this being patently false, and will allay your doubt through the following story.
Individuals A, B, and C are hanging out. Individuals A & C are geeks, while Individual B is a friend who happens to have been stuck in between waiting for their friend to show up.
They were decent customers, drinks are given, we're bulling about random things... Individual C is approached by a member of the opposite sex (D)) after they mention their Halfling Paladin.
The two begin to discuss the natures of Halflings and Paladins, laying on hands is mentioned, groping begins to occur... and I must ask the two to politely leave, while individual A is left behind by B when their Significant Other shows, and individual A, sad and lonely, comes home with me. Conversations and... other things occur, and we were together for around 4 years
.It can occur, ladies and gentlemen. Any topic is appealing to someone. Hell, I was proud of C for such a vigorous catch in this case.
However, we were all clean, properly dressed, and somewhat entertaining beyond that
.Slainte,
-Loonook.
I look at gaming as I look at everything else in my life. As I got older, I figured out that you are going to have friends that have different interests and opinions than you have. Which is fine. I personally enjoy shooting firearms, and blowing stuff up, as well as discussions about medieval and ancient history. A friend of mine hates firearms passionately but loves ancient history. So when I am around that friend, I dont talk about guns, or what I do with guns, etc.. Same goes true for my gaming preferences. I have a lot of friends and family that think gaming is "stupid"... so I just dont bring it up around them. I have my friends for gaming, and my friends for going out shooting, and friends for political stuff, etc.. Being comfortable with your own boundaries and other peoples boundaries (as well as likes and dislikes) makes life a lot easier. And it doesnt hurt to know about a major sport (pick a team, learn a little about it... it gives you something to talk about with the layman). 8)
The Little Raven
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Just as doctors should subscribe to the philosophy of "Do no harm," gamers should simply subscribe to the philosophy of "Be not a douche."
Being a gamer has never really gotten in my way in a social situation, partly because I don't care if other people think it's giggle-worthy and partly because I don't strike people as a "stereotypical" gamer (one girl I dated a few years ago didn't believe me until I showed her my D&D collection).
Being a gamer has never really gotten in my way in a social situation, partly because I don't care if other people think it's giggle-worthy and partly because I don't strike people as a "stereotypical" gamer (one girl I dated a few years ago didn't believe me until I showed her my D&D collection).
Andor
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Hobby vs Hobby. 'nuff said.
That's pretty good.
Nitpick: the Willowbrook Mall is in Wayne, NJ... close to Passaic (which I grew up next to).
Holy Bovine
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