I specifically stated that she absolutely does not patronise him about it, adding that clause because I realised it might seem like she was

Basically, she doesn't treat him like a lesser who needs to be coddled, but I tried to explain (obviously poorly

) that what she does instead is use an alternate debating tactic--instead of treating Lupaz as the opponent in a debate to be defeated, in which case she must either use overwhelming tactics (combination of the higher Int and the Diplomacy) or hold back, she treats him as a comrade and ally in a discussion whose purpose is to help both of them understand more--in that sense, Nissa sees herself as the embodiment of a specific principle in a discussion, so she has no need to win or lose the debate, as in the end, everyone wins. She'll do things like try to argue devil's advocate to see what happens, take an extreme argument and see where it leads, etc