Chrisis Over for now. (I'm going insane! Need help from my friends!)

[Sam]

Yes. She cannot even talk more than a few words to him.

How does she know she want's to marry him then? I mean, what's so great about this guy that she is so afraid of losing him.

Maybe she's really in love with the translator.....????

Seriously, you should sit down with her and share your concerns. Maybe this is a reaction by your sister to something else going on in her life.

If, after all that, she still wants to go ahead with it.... Well, then there's only one thing you can do..... Send in the Kender!!!!!

No, um, I mean, you should support her. Even if she's making a wrong decision.

 

[Angcuru]

No, um, I mean, you should support her. Even if she's making a wrong decision.

Think of her kid though. If I was him I would be seriously F-ed up if my mom up an married some foreign guy who can't speak english all of a sudden.

 

[Greatwyrm]

[qoute]I decided to get married quickly so my husband to be doesn't have a chance to change his mind.

Anybody who says something like this needs to do some serious reflection about what marriage really is. I'm sure your sister is a wonderful person, but this says to me she really isn't thinking this through.

 

[MEG Hal]

Sounds like a mistake due to it being so fast but knowing she has a 6 yo son...think about the kid and what this may do to him, she should slow down and do the right thing.

 

[takyris]

Hey, she's 47. If she hasn't learned not to be an idiot by now, then the idiocy is probably not coming out no matter how many times we put her through the wash.

Talk to her. Get more information. Ask for the information you need, but don't ask in such a way that you obviously show your prejudicial attitude against him. She knows you'll have concerns -- her e-mail indicated as much. So tell her that yes, you are concerned, and you'd like to know more.

I'm not that concerned about the "changing his mind" thing -- that sounds like the kind of lighthearted off-the-cuff joke somebody would make. I'm sure my wife made that joke when we were engaged. "Get him hitched before he finds out what I'm REALLY like, heheheh," and so forth.

Of course, we'd known each other for a couple years at that point, but still... find out more info. Panicking now not helpful.

You're doing fine.

 

[Argent Silvermage]

Panicking now not helpful.

You're doing fine.

Oh stop making sense... I'm being a Drama Queen here.

More info. I see her in 10 minutes.
She will not give me his full name. she is worried I'll start looking into his background for some reason. (This is not good)

 

[Angcuru]

Oh stop making sense... I'm being a Drama Queen here.

More info. I see her in 10 minutes.
She will not give me his full name. she is worried I'll start looking into his background for some reason. (This is not good)

It only makes sense that she WOULD tell you his full name, since if she goes through with it she will be SHARING that name. This is really suspiscious.

Is she the type of person to pull wierd stunts like this?

 

[Dimwhit]

Oh stop making sense... I'm being a Drama Queen here.

More info. I see her in 10 minutes.
She will not give me his full name. she is worried I'll start looking into his background for some reason. (This is not good)

OK, AS, I gotta say, the more you detail this, the more skeptical I become...

Have a nice talk with her.

 

[BSF]

Well, you are probably talking to her as I type. Still, maybe you want some more feedback for when you get home later.

She is your sister. She needs your support for both the good and the bad. Be sure she understands that you are concerned for her and her son. Be sure she understands that you care and that you will be there for her.

The entire situation does seem suspicious. It might not be, but it seems that way. It could be that he wants citizenship and is even offering to pay her for marrying him. Regardless of what the facts are, Immigration officials may take an interest and they may investigate. If she truly loves him, that risk shouldn't dissuade her. If it does ... then she may want to rethink her decision to marry.

I really hope that the entire situation works out well. Perhaps you will have a new member of the family that will turn out to be a wonderful addition. Perhaps not.

 

[mistergone]

I'm gonna say that, first, it's none of my business or anyone else's here. But, you asked, so...

Let her go through with it. What can you really do to stop her? Tell her how you feel, and point out any thing you might see as potentially wrong with it all. In my experience, people who are gonna make bad decisions are gonna make bad decisions. She's old enough that if she hasn't learned by now, she probably never will. If she's lucky, no bad will come of it. But from all the details you've given, that the situation will end in anything but fire, well, it doesn't seem likely.

Good luck to her poor kid.