not sure who that is,
@Oofta quotes the features and they very clearly say they always work automatically, no effort required
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Feature: Rustic Hospitality
Since you come from the ranks of the common folk, you fit in among them with ease. You can find a place to hide, rest, or recuperate among other commoners, unless you have shown yourself to be a danger to them. They will shield you from the law or anyone else searching for you, though they will not risk their lives for you.”
they basically fall over each other to help me out if I so much as bring it up, no persuasion needed
how about agree that they were right? The rest of the book will not change what the feature says, so either you explain how the interpretation of how the feature works is wrong, or you have to agree that it is correct. The rest of the book does not help you there