ENWorld women

I am a male gamer, despite the avatar, and one F. PC in a PbP game
There have been women in my last two groups. I think they have both brought a differernt view to the table, and hope that my next group will have more.
My wife only plays one-shots but she enjoys those and patiently listens to brewing plots or adventure summaries.

Its intresting to find these things out ie
KidCuthlu F
Cyberzombie M

I would also second the old observation that Gamers of Color are far less common than women.
Since I left my all otherwise all black JrH group I have played with 3, two of them bad, one very good.
 

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randomling said:
I'm an undergraduate student reading English Language and Linguistics and falling in love with phonology and syntax. (Sad, I know.)

Sad?

No way! I mean, I personally prefer typology and morphology, but everyone's entitled to their own tastes, I say. I, too, am an undergraduate in both English and Linguistics. I'm due to graduate this Spring ('05, for posterity). I'm happily married to a fellow gamer.

I'm a man, but I won't feel bad responding here in my wife's stead, as she doesn't have any interest in posting to ENWorld. She'll occasionally dictate my responses when someone posts something she finds inflamatory, but basically, I speak for both of us here.
 

Er, well.

I'm Amy, I'm 21, and I'm some girl who lives in Seattle, WA. Never roleplayed before D&D 3.0, though this was not for lack of trying. I usually tend to GM games online somewhat sporadically, often due to my players being sporadic in their deciding to attend, and I'm looking to put together something in real life sometime soon. ...of course, I'm also reeeeeeeally tired of GMing, and I reeeeeeeeally wanna play, but that doesn't look like it's gonna happen anytime soon. ^.^; Current gaming obsessions: Eberron, Planescape, Nobilis.

Um, hmm. Basically, I'm your archetypal artsy-geeky Asian lesbian feminist. Which, okay, is not archetypal at all, but you know what I mean. I read books about cognitive linguistics in politics for fun. So I'm pretty much on the strange side.
 

Harlequin_1998 said:
My wife is very anti-gaming. What advice can you gals give me to get her more interested in gaming (in general) or at least more tolerant of it?

This guy's advice is DON'T! Don't try to make a gamer from a non-gamer. Some people take to gaming, and you can sometimes spot them (gamer-dar as opposed to gay-dar?) and invite them to watch a game, and maybe consult with them on monster or NPC tactics.

I've gamed with a fair number of female gamers and a lot of male gamers and while I have come to believe that I'm fairly picky about who I'll game with, I've encountered far too many miserable, uninteresting players, many of whom (often female) who are no fun to play with because they simply don't want to be there.

My wife has an active bias against female gamers. I don't (obviously), but I do try pretty hard to avoid having my player's SO's at the gaming table. Non-players, regardless of gender are an annoyance at best.

As for making your wife mor tolerant of gaming, I'd say make sure that you make time for her. If you game every Saturday and wouldn't miss it for the world, then make sure that every Sunday is for you and your wife to spend together. Don't miss it for the sun and the moon.

Also, you might try to find something for your wife to do, something that she enjoys, while you play. Bridge tournament, tennis with her friends, football, whatever it is that she enjoys that you're happy to miss out on.
 

Acquana said:
Yo yo yo

I'm a chick. I'm 23, I live in Savannah, GA. I have a degree in sequential art (comic books), and am currently a freelance artist.


Nearly all of my games since getting into college have been mostly chicks. Which has been awesome.

It seems like there are plenty of male gamers here who think that the coolest thing ever would be to have a female player in their game. Whatever . . . makes no difference really, in the long run.

What I think would be cool would be to have a professional artist in the gaming group. I envy folks who can enjoy such a luxury.
 

Hiya Ellie, Acquana and Amy!

Amy: I've read the Nobilis book and think it's utterly beautiful and a very cool-sounding game, but I've never played it. What's it like in an actual session? (And by the way, books on cognitive linguistics in politics are exactly my idea of fun, and I'm a feminist too. :D Bi though.)

Acquana - how've you managed a "mostly chicks" game? I keep trying, but I can never find the players unless I want to do a solo game (me running and my friend playing, or t'other way around).
 


Nice thread :)

I'm AelyaShade, also known as Alma in that dreaded thing called the real world. I'm 33, live in Illinois, married with 2 daughters, and work in the Physical Therapy field outside of gaming time.

I started gaming on the PC about 15 years ago (hubby's fault...he was stuck on a part of an RPG while on the PC and I ended up solving the riddle as well as the game for him, hehe!), got sucked into the online gaming realm via MMORPG's and IRC-based chat games, play certain CCG's on ocassion, and am an online game addict (currently, City of Heroes being my online game drug of choice). Offline, I've dabbled with Ravenloft, Call of Ctulhu, Nobilis, and of course D&D 3.5. My hubby, who has been gaming a lot longer, is the DM for a homebrew game that consists of my daughters, two friends, and me, which meets every 2 weeks. We are such a gamer family that summer vacation includes GenCom in Indy. :)
 

Hello, another female gamer here!

I'm 34. I've been playing for just over a year now. In fact, I played my first game mere days after this thread died (or so you all thought) back in November 2003.

Highlights so far:

Of course, I've met some really great people.

And I just joined a pbp game here at ENWorld. It's called Eberron, Ex Oblivione. It just started, but it's looking good.

Also, I have been taking notes for my group's current campaign and hope to start posting in the Story Hour forum very soon.

I met my cat, Julius, at a game...sort of. I was the only one who showed that day (it was not our regular game) so I spent the time watching a very cute stray playing on the DM's back deck. A week later, the little critter was mine.

Finally, to give the current DM a break, I will be running a short-term campaign starting this Tuesday. My first try at running the show. Gulp!

All in all, it's been a great experience!
 

randomling said:
Amy: I've read the Nobilis book and think it's utterly beautiful and a very cool-sounding game, but I've never played it. What's it like in an actual session?

I can't really describe it, because we never really got to that point. The only Nobilis game I ever tried to run fell apart before we even had the first session.

This is pretty much because Nobilis is a game that requires quite a lot of investment of time and resources on behalf of the players, and a lot of players can't deal with A) working themselves through thinking abstractly enough to "understanding" Nobilis, 2) the existence of far-ranging choice and, fundamentally, the ability to do whatever you want, and iii) autonomy in having to make your own campaign setting (Chancel) and patron (Imperator).

I lost a lot of players with A, and another set with 2, and by the time we got to iii, which was the point when I said, "Okay, now I'm going to let you guys discuss on your own and write up your Chancel details and Imperator properties," that was kind of where it fell apart. I'm afraid that it's the kind of game that requires some serious hardcore roleplayers, i.e., the sort of people who go to roleplaying message boards and talk about roleplaying. Which, um, I fall into, but nobody else I know does.

So I'm eternally searching for a set of players to run a Nobilis game for. ...well, for the purpose of eventually putting down the Hollyhock Goddess reins and letting someone else take it up, because really I'd love to play. But still. [looks for players]

(And by the way, books on cognitive linguistics in politics are exactly my idea of fun, and I'm a feminist too. :D Bi though.)

Oh, that's okay, I won't hold it against you. ^.^ If you're interested in that kinda thing, or in fact American politics at all, you might wanna see George Lakoff's Moral Politics, which has some very interesting things to say about the metaphors used by the populace in American politics. To the point where I can now predict, like, virtually everything that people on TV are going to say.

Acquana - how've you managed a "mostly chicks" game? I keep trying, but I can never find the players unless I want to do a solo game (me running and my friend playing, or t'other way around).

Um... Well, having been in several mostly-chicks games, in general, what I do is, I walk up to some girl I know and say, "Hey! I'm running D&D! Do you want to play?" and they say, "Yeah, I'd love to!" But maybe it's just weird where I live.

I have also been in a World of Darkness character creation session in which everybody was female and also non-straight, which is probably so stereotypical to the point where Mariah said, "Hey, can we just assume that everybody here is gay?" to which the collective reply was, "Yeeeeeeees." Assuming that, y'know, lesbian vampire sorceresses are your thing. ^.^
 

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