alleynbard
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The short version, gamers can be horrible people and the presence of a vagina does nothing to change this.
I love this sentence. I love it even more when it is taken out of context.
The short version, gamers can be horrible people and the presence of a vagina does nothing to change this.
Now don't get me wrong, I love gaming and think that most gamers are by and large awesome people. But the combination above can lead to a perfect storm of dysfunction, where a broken person seeks an escapist hobby and those playing don't feel comfortable correcting them.
large awesome people
It seems like any thread about women gamers immediately turns in a bunch of guys proudly proclaiming that they play rpgs with girls and have for such a long time~!
I'm sorry to hear that, but anecdotes aren't evidence, otherwise I could also point out that I've never had a problem with any female gamer, though I have only had problems with maybe 4 or 5 male gamers.I have had more terrible experiences with female gamers than I have with males. I like lists, so here's a list of the lovely ladies of gaming in my area:
And this was because she was a girl? A guy couldn't be petty and treat specific people in a group badly? I know for a fact that they can. I've seen male players be a complete jerk to a specific player because he saw them as a 'noob'.1. Is batsh*t crazy and became extremely jealous of a second female in the group. She went out of her way to treat that girl poorly, even refusing to give her cookies that she baked for everybody.
Maybe it had less to do with the fact that she was a female, and more to do with the fact that she had a substance abuse problem. Being a female isn't required for that.2. Is batsh*t crazy and has a severe substance abuse problem. She freaked out when I asked the group not to drink while I DM'ed and I had to boot her when she decided to curse me out and send me insane emails. She refused to give me back some stuff I'd left at her place as "revenge".
That sounds like an exaggeration, but putting that aside, I've played in a game where a male player kept hitting on a female player in the game as well. This isn't unique to females, but just a potential possibility when you mix certain types of people with others with the opposite sex. It certainly isn't unique to gaming. I gurantee that there are both men and women who will do this, and in other social situations, say work.3. Is kind of awesome. Quiet, nice, just a lot of fun.
4. Had a boyfriend but was trying to cheat with any members of the group who would look at her.
Again, what does this have to do with being female. Gamers play differently, and some gamers obsess over minor details. I've seen it in males and females.5. Is batsh*t crazy and grinds games to a halt by insisting on investigating things that very clearly have nothing to do with the adventure. She demands that wells be described accurately and takes apart every chair in every dungeon-type setting, convinced that there's going to be secret stuff in the hollowed-out legs of the chairs.
Ok, so it's a girl more interested in a guy than the game. It can happen. I'd say it can happen from either sex, and it can happen from nearly any kind of social situation. I know that there have been certain social gatherings that my reason for going was because a certain female would be there. It's just human nature, and again not really indicative of anything to do with either females or gaming.6. Only plays when the married guy she's obsessed with plays, and then spends the whole game trying to get his attention with "witty banter".
You've never had a bad male DM? Then you are quite lucky. My experience with female DMs is a lot less, I've only known one. My experience as she was mediocre at combat and some elements of the game, but was absolutely fantastic at bringing NPCs alive. However, I'm sure they come in many flavors.7. Is incredibly overbearing and decimated the interest of a fledgling group with a pair of awful adventures she insisted on running from memory. After an hour of her husband talking to us about the power of a dom/sub relationship, we were scrambling for the door. That group had 2 males and 4 females.
I once had a male DM that alternated between sleeping on the couches of various friends as he was technically homeless a few months. I also had a female friend that crashed on my couch for months, and she never gamed with me. I don't find this kind of behavior to have anything to do with being a female or a gamer.8. Is batsh*t crazy and lives off of other people's kindness (aka sleeps on their couch until they kick her out). She played "dark characters" who drank your blood and really knew about the world and stuff.
And this was the girl's fault? You have socially inept teenage boys who can't handle themselves around girls, and it's the fault of a female gamer? I think you are confused at who the problem is in this example.9. Was really great. But unfortunately, this was a game at a store where the players were mostly high school boys. All the guys immediately had a crush on her and spent the whole time trying to impress her and get her to go get pizza with them.
This. Honestly, given the opportunity, I always try for a 50/50 ratio in my gaming groups. I've never run a campaign without at least one female player. I've DMed with at least three couples (all of whom spent more time lovingly backstabbing each other's character than playing kissy-face or something), and with several extremely attractive women, none of whom were particularly distracting at the game table (and my tolerance for boorish behavior from the male gamers towards the women is extremely, extremely, slight - my game is neither the time nor the place, nor will it be).It's not like we're bragging about it or something, just stating a fact. To some of us, the notion that it's rare enough to be worth this much discussion is strange to us.
Really? I've never once tried for any ratio whatsoever. I'm "genderblind" when it comes to gaming. The only thing I try to do when looking for folks to game with is find cool people who'd be fun to game with, and for that matter, fun to hang out with when not gaming, or when chatting around gaming.Honestly, given the opportunity, I always try for a 50/50 ratio in my gaming groups.
Man, consider the plight of the bisexual gamer. How does he or she ever manage to focus?
Really? I've never once tried for any ratio whatsoever. I'm "genderblind" when it comes to gaming. The only thing I try to do when looking for folks to game with is find cool people who'd be fun to game with, and for that matter, fun to hang out with when not gaming, or when chatting around gaming.
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But actively pushing a co-ed agenda? I don't care enough about the gender make-up of my group to actively seek that out. In fact, I don't care about it at all. I'm too busy caring about the quality of the gaming and the quality of the social dynamic overall to push some kind of gender agenda.