Game session abruptly canceled

[Banshee16]

The big deal is that it seems like quite a few people here place a higher value on the game than they do on parenting or the concerns of parents and thier children. I'm married and have a 5 year old. My wife is just finishing up her 2nd post-grad degree and that means that I spend a lot of time looking after our child. My wife and I also work full time jobs as well. I also run a monthly D&D game. But I told my players well in advance that if something comes up concernig my child I'll try to let them know AS FAR IN ADVANCE AS I CAN.

I like D&D, but I LOVE my child and if it comes down to stressing out my child or inconveincing the people I play D&D with well the D&D group is going to lose everytime. Theyre a great group of guys and I try to accomodate them as best as I can, but my child is my child and nothing takes priority of his welfare and well being.

Also knowing how rambunctious and active my son is I'd NEVER cart him along to a game with me. I know it's different for each child, but I like to play without interruption and I also like to keep an eye on what he's doing. Not because he's a bad kid, but because he's FIVE and someone should keep a pretty constant eye on children especially in an enviornment that isnt thier own. Then again that just might be me.

How is the game any different than another pastime? Life happens....particularly when kids are around.

Common etiquette would dictate that you do your best not to cancel last minute. And if you have to cancel, call. If you're not sure you can make plans because of an issue with the kids, openly mention it to the other people who are depending on you...ie. "Listen, I'm really interested in catching the game with you guys, but we aren't sure if we can get a babysitter, because our regular one is already booked, so make your plans without me, and if I can make it, it's a bonus". I don't think that kind of communication is that much to ask.

Obviously, a parent has a right to drop out of the session or whatever to deal with the child.....but if I was the guy organizing the plans, and had a buddy who was consistently dropping out at the last minute I'd talk to him about it, and eventually, we'd stop including him in the plans....if he can make it, great, but we're not going to make our plans dependent upon his presence. Because the rest of us have a right not to have our evenings ruined time after time by someone who keeps canceling.

Banshee

 

[Piratecat]

You don't have kids. You have no @#$(*@# what it's like to have kids. One day you will. Then you will feel stupid for how you reacted.

Enough said.

You might notice that Umbran warned against this not half a page up.

Klunk.