Gaming Nags- how many are there out there?

[Arnwyn]

Nope, no nagging. Such an attitude is inconceivable to me.

 

[Staffan]

I get nagged - but it's to write more story hour, or to work on the game.

Get back to writing OSM2, dammit!

(Good to see you back here, hope things have worked out for you.)

 

[sniffles]

> It seems to me that gamin' and wives just don't mix.
Ahem. IME, when both parties in the relationship game, they generally mix quite well, thank you.

But when you have gamer + non-gamer... then you have to compromise. One guy I know arranges his game so it's on nights when his wife is out doing something else. Another guy games on the night his wife works late. Yet another games only on weeknights, as weekends are reserved for his wife. One group I heard of, composed mainly of guys with non-gaming wives, decided to introduce all the wives in question and try to get them to regularly have a "girls night out" on game night.

Yeah, there's no reason why gaming has to be an issue with the non-gaming partner. When my SO and I first got together I didn't game, and I didn't begrudge him spending time with his gaming buddies, as long as that time didn't outweigh the time he spent with me. Now we game together and I can't imagine wanting to game without him, or him wanting to play without me.

But I have experienced a fellow player whose wife nags him about gaming. It's a sign of either control issues or insecurity. The spouse with these problems would complain no matter what you do, if it's not what they want you to do and/or not with them.

Luckily my friend told his new wife in no uncertain terms that he wasn't going to give up gaming for her. He adjusted his schedule to spend more time with her and her kids, and told her she's just going to have to suck it up - he's going to game with his friends at least once a week. We also mollified her a bit by having one game at their house. I just wish she wouldn't shut herself in the office and expect him to take care of the kids during the game.
But then, she expects him to take care of the kids all the rest of the time, so why should during the game be different?

Oops, sorry, didn't mean that to turn into a rant about my friend's wife.

 

[The_Gunslinger658]

Hi-

My ex-G/F used to always pester me about going clubing and gaming, so I thought to myself, either I can kick her in the teeth or break it off, I decided to break the relationship off, I enjoy gaming and I game when I want to game. I dont need some chick telling me what to do, I get enough of that from the Army.


Scott

 

[Arkham]

My wife is known to nag me for a game. As in "Are you ready to DM yet? I want to play now!"

This one sounds familiar to me too.

There's a good chance when I come home from work I get a 'Honey... I want to level!'.
At times it has been 2-3 times a week, in addition to our Monday and Friday Undermountain nights.

 

[Mystery Man]

The wife teases me about playng DnD, but has always been cool about my gaming activities.

 

[Desdichado]

I voted yes, but more because the way the answer was worded was that my wife dislikes me spending time on it rather than because she actually nags me about it. She doesn't. I know she'd rather I was doing something else (preferably with her and/or the kids) when I game, but she doesn't really give me a hard time, unless I try to game too frequently, or regularly on a night that's bad for her, etc.

 

[Starman]

My ex didn't like me playing, but that was because she thought it was satanic. Thank god we are no longer together. I am happily single now and so I don't have anyone naggin me about anything.

Starman

 

[mythago]

YBut I have experienced a fellow player whose wife nags him about gaming. It's a sign of either control issues or insecurity.

Just a note that those issues can go both ways.

I've seen couples where the gamer doesn't bother to mention an upcoming game until the last minute, or where the game takes priority over other life things ("Oh, sorry honey, I was going to do the dishes but...uh....I was rewriting my character sheet"), that kind of thing.

Yep, it's possible that a non-gaming nagging spouse has control issues. It's worth considering, though, whether there's a reason s/he feels out of control. Sometimes it's because they're a jerk; sometimes it's because you are.

 

[devilbat]

I answered "she dislikes me working on it", but thats not always true. Every once and a while she gets a little jealous of me spending some of my free time on the game rather then on her or the kids.

Doesn't happen all the time, but when it does, it sucks.