Gay men or women who play D&D

[Dannyalcatraz]

Offer to run some Wraethu RPG and see what you get.

 

[SoulsFury]

Do they make a lot of gay jokes or involve themselves in gay bashing? Are they really religiously conservative (sorry but it is an indicator)? These would be signs that they have problems. But as a friend of ours I gamed with came out of the closet our chorus of reply was "And this is a surprise, how?"

This is what I was thinking. I have a friend who recently came out. Everyone was like, "We knew a long time ago." I am willing to bet inthecloset isn't as in the closet as he thinks. I sincerely hope he finds the strength to be himself in public. I can't imagine where he lives, works, and frequents on a daily basis that he is in fear of his sexuality. Every city I have visited in the Southeast (bible belt as he refers to it) has tons of openly gay individuals. Good luck inthecloset!

 

[pawsplay]

Offer to run some Wraethu RPG and see what you get.

The roleplaying you want, you can't get; the roleplaying you can get, you don't want.

 

[AGamerInTheCloset]

This is what I was thinking. I have a friend who recently came out. Everyone was like, "We knew a long time ago." I am willing to bet inthecloset isn't as in the closet as he thinks. I sincerely hope he finds the strength to be himself in public. I can't imagine where he lives, works, and frequents on a daily basis that he is in fear of his sexuality. Every city I have visited in the Southeast (bible belt as he refers to it) has tons of openly gay individuals. Good luck inthecloset!

I appreciate the well wishes, honestly.

If I lived in one of the cities, I wouldn't be nearly as afraid. There are active gay communities there as little as 2 hours drive away from where I sit at the moment.

But I live in the countryside, in a very small mountain town surrounded by other very small mountain towns and all of them isolated. Diversity simply doesn't exist here, and hasn't for as long as anyone knows. And generational poverty doesn't help at all, either. Education is not only undervalued, but there is actually a sentiment of anti-intellectualism.

Homophobic jokes are the norm, including those that express violence, and including my friends and family.

I have no idea how well built my closet is, I think its rather sound. Hell, I think being a gamer helps make it stronger. I'm so obviously a geek and gamer that I feel it supercedes any other indentifiers I might get.

 

[ShadowDenizen]

*Raises hand*.

Gay gamer in the Boston area here.
I play in a 4E game, a 3.5/PF game, and a Conan game. (Each group averages ~8 people, and each has at least one other gay person in it besides me [except for Conan, which only has 3 players and a DM.])

And I belong to several other groups that get together for social gatherings, board-gaming, book-clubs, etc.

I've been very fortunate in my adult life (at least with regards to gaming!!) My sexual orienation has been a non-issue thus far.

I probably even self identify more as a gamer than I do as a homosexual. Gaming is what I choose to do, after all. The fact that it is also the aspect of my life I do not have to hide probably contributes to it quite a bit.

I think every small bit contributes to the greater whole. I'm as much of a gamer as I am a homosexual, or a reader, or a cinephile. I would be a vastly different person if you took away one element of that.

But my best wishes go to those who are not fortunate enough to be themselves, and are forced to deny themselves in order to "fit in". But one day, things WILL be better. (And who knows? There may be other people in your community that are in the same position you are!)

 

[Winterthorn]

*Raises hand* too

Middle-aged gay gamer up here in Ottawa, Canada. I usually a DM/GM for RPGs, although I enjoy board games and strategy PC games too.

I got into gaming at 16-17, and started coming out of the closet at 30. While my folks know of my sexuality now, I keep my gaming interests out their sight as they don't really "get" anything beyond Scrabble and Monopoly. I've had pagan friends who knew I was gay, and co-workers too. But I am basically a closeted gamer... I know the gay community is not the friendliest toward gamers, in the sense that gamers are perceived as nerds and nerds are not perceived as sexy. The last thing I'd admit to another gay man I'm dating is my interest in gaming -- and since I'm in my mid-40's, I find myself self-conscious about gaming interests as in "aren't I too old?".

Yeah, so life has it's twists and turns...

I especially welcome friend requests here from queer members -- in fact some kind of "Gaymers Caucus", as a social network here at EN World, would be nifty if that were possible

[MENTION=6676040]AGamerInTheCloset[/MENTION]: I wish you strength given your situation. I don't know how old you are, but as you get older, pressure is going build on you to find a mate for hetero marriage, and in a small town that pressure is almost inevitable and potentially fierce. I urge you to be prepared for this, and face the possibility you'll have to leave town in order to truly be able to live your life as a gay man. That breeding pressure can be awful, even for heterosexuals, and in the "Bible Belt" it'll be worse I bet. Take of yourself!

[MENTION=26968]Vicar In A Tutu[/MENTION]: I remember Angelsboi too. Poignant need.