Gay men or women who play D&D

[the Jester]

Oh, I've had tons of gay and/or bi players in my group (and played in two or three campaigns with a gay or bi dm).

My current group includes a gay guy and a bi guy; I believe the rest identify as straight.

 

[wingsandsword]

Yeah, high level Thread Necromancy going on here. 8 years, that's dang near Epic Level Thread Necromancy.

I've gamed with a number of LBGT players in my 13 years of gaming:

Back in college I played in several campaigns run by, and ran a few campaigns for, a bisexual transwoman.

I know of one more-or-less openly bisexual man that played occasionally in some games I ran in college, and two pretty openly bisexual women have played in some of my games over the years.

If you include people that "experimented" and had dalliances with the same sex but still self-identify as heterosexual, or that are closeted and I know about as a good friend there are a few others.

In my current game there is an openly gay man as one of the players.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

I know this is a necroed thread, but:

Do any of you know any gay men or women playing D&D?

Despite playing 34 years in the hobby, I've only known 1 guy who was out...and he enjoyed playing up the stereotypes with the occasional "Girlfriend!", choruses from "Its Raining Men" and so forth. His last PC in my group was a 1/2E female.

And he was REALLY cool to game with.

Wherever you are, Troy, good gaming to you!

 

[jonesy]

More like fabulous thread necromancy. Reading through this thread makes me feel warm inside. EN World is nice.


Hi there. I'm bi. I'm in love with a girl who knows. I don't know if it affects the way I play, but I do and have played all sorts of genders.

We used to have a gay player in our group, but s/he became a woman and went back to Estonia. He was cool. I hear she owns a bar now. When he played he used to pick characters with vague sexualities. An ogre in womens clothing. Was it a man? Was it a woman? Who knows. It was an ogre. It ate the party halfling. That was fun.

We also currently have a married lesbian couple in our group. They'll play any sort of characters.

Just throwing this out there for something to talk about (and if I'm just getting in the way of people connecting, fair enough) -- in my campaign, and I think in every campaign I've ever run, the sexuality of the CHARACTERS was far more important than the sexuality of the PLAYERS.

That is, nobody really cares if whatshername's bi, or whosit's gay or whatever. But is Madame Ganik actually a transexual? Well, now, THAT MATTERS!

Ok. Now I just have to know. Was she transexual or not?

 

[NewJeffCT]

Me and my partner have recently started playing 2nd edition AD&D on Sundays in the College Area in San Diego.

He's playing a half-elven female thief and I'm playing a human male wizard as well as DMing. It's pretty fun, but it would be more fun if we had other friendly (gay or not) players to join in.

I'm 3,000 miles away from San Diego, but there are ways to search for local gamers. I believe enworld itself has a gamers seeking gamers tool. There is also penandpapergames.com as well. I've used their tool to good success in the past. I don't know if WotC still has a forum for it or not?

 

[Drub]

Thanks for the tips! I've also posted a MeetUp and I'm crossing my fingers. In any case, it's a great excuse to be social and meet new people.

 

[DumbPaladin]

Interesting thread necromancy.

In 2002, I was only a couple of years past leaving my all-gay D&D group. The DM and his boyfriend, and four other guys (one left pretty early on), plus me. I was allowed in even though I was "only" bisexual.

It was a very interesting experience. To be honest, the only difference from my current D&D group -- which consists of 3 bisexual people, 4 heterosexuals, and no one identifying as gay/straight -- was in the occasional OOC conversation topics.

In game, there were very few indications of the sexuality of the members: most of the characters did not pursue relationships of any kind. Looking back on it, it surprises me how ... well, "straight" people played everything, to use a double entendre.

 

[erf_beto]

I'm gay and I DM and played with straight women and bissexual men in college (other people came and went, but that was our regular group). We did mostly Vampire and Mage, with the occasional D&D one-shot (we tried a campaign, but it never went far).

We started playing together before we became best friends, and we were all "in the closet" back then. Sexuality wasn't a taboo, we were just assexual I guess. One of the girl's characters (male) and mine (female) started a relantionship in a Vampire game that lasted for a couple of years.

On our last Vampire campaign, I actually rolled up a gay character "just to see how people would react". His sexuality came up in game in very subtle ways, and I had fantastic character moments with him. It was a very rewarding experience for me.

I can only speak for myself, but roleplaying actually helped me through the whole acceptance phase and coming out - and I'm not saying that because I played females and gay characters.

 

[olshanski]

I think the original premise is entirely flawed and someones orientation has little to nothing to do with what games they play... or even if it did have anything to do with choice of games, the idea of gay people somehow bucking convention by roleplaying just as their sexuality isn't standard "straight" is also pretty ridiculous.

For example, I would guess that there are about a similar ratio of gay people playing RPGs, as there are gay people playing tabletop games, or gay people playing poker, or gay people playing Bridge.

In fact, I know more gay bridge players than roleplayers, and if you want to follow the original thesis, it wouldn't fly at all, because bridge is ALL ABOUT FOLLOWING CONVENTIONS. In fact, if you don't follow a standard conventon in bridge, you have to alert the other players and let them know how you are not following standard conventions. In tournaments, players are required to fill out a special card explaining what conventions they follow.

Does that have anything at all to do with sexuality? I guess about as much as killing orcs and stealing treasure does.

 

[pawsplay]

One of the groups I was in disbanded with the infamous, "It's not me that's weird, it's you!" speech, when the sole (supposedly) heterosexual player went on a seemingly unprompted rant about how no one should make her feel weird for being straight and monogamous, and everyone was all like, "Really, G., it's cool, no one judges, but it seriously isn't cool that you just told everyone they're weird."

Yeah... that was our second to last session as a group.