Gencon Couples, Help me!

[Thornir Alekeg]

So let's see here...

She isn't upset about you wanting to go without her

You want to go to GenCon

You want her to go so you can spend time with her

She's fairly new to gaming and just isn't into it at that level yet

You don't have tons of cash to burn

Sounds to me that you are being a little bit selfish wanting to have her come. Let her decide for herself - the fact that she is ok about you going without her says to me that she is secure in your relationship, understands your desire to go to GenCon, and cares about you enough to not want to possibly ruin your time if she is not enjoying herself. This sounds about as perfect as a realtionship can get. Don't risk screwing this up by trying to push her into something. And be sure to do something really nice with her at some other time.

 

[Wulf Ratbane]

I'd theoretically advise against dragging *any* potentially unwilling participant into a massive ball of gamer geekdom.

Dude: She's dating ArthurQ.

 

[RangerWickett]

Harsh, Ben, but remarkable apt.

Hey, Arthur, Rua, if you'd like, Arthur can go the con 4 days, Rua for 1, and if she doesn't like it, I'll be around to show her a good time. It'll be great. We'll go to Jack Rabbit Slims, she'll OD on snorting heroin, and then I'll get to stab her in the chest three times with a needle full of adrenaline.

But instead of dancing, I recommend Karaoke Revolution.

 

[BigFreekinGoblinoid]

I'm just going off her admittedly very short post, but ruaalien2 didn't sound like she'll be upset/depressed over it. And if being apart for a few days makes either of you upset or depressed, a little practice is probably good for you...

Yeppers

 

[ruaalien2]

Shadowdancer, that's an opition that I didn't even think about...now that I know there is a minor league team around there, I'll look into it, and if they are in town it's a way for me to get away. (I'm a huge baseball fan).

CarlZog, no, I won't be into it as much as him. I'll be in Johnson and Wales (Providence), so it shouldn't be to bad, but between school and work for both of us (I'll be looking for a job up there and he works weekends) it's going to be hard to find the time to see each other.

Wulf Ratbane, LMAO.


Part of me wants to be selfish and tell him not to go to Gen Con, but I know how much it means to him and how upset he will be if he doesn't go. I'm not going to be happy giving up a few days of the last two weeks that we have together before I leave, but at the same time, I was how misrable he was during Gen Con So Call when he didn't go, and I couldn't ask that of him. I understand why he wants me to go so bad, but I just can't see myself enjoying it, but as some of you pointed out, there are ways to get away from Gen Con and still enjoy myself, even better if he is willing to give up some time there to go out for a nice dinner, etc.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

There's plenty to do as a couple - from speed-painting contests to learning to play boardgames. It's a great adventure to explore as a couple. My husband and I had an absolute blast last year and look forward to our trip again this year.

There's also lots of great food in the down town Indy area - so makes for a fun "date" after the gaming is done (assuming it ever is "done" at GenCon).

Also - I'm organizing a Ladies Night this year and I'm always happy to meet a fellow gamer girl! Tell her to come to hang out with Queen_Dopplepopolis - I command it!

 

[ruaalien2]

There's plenty to do as a couple - from speed-painting contests to learning to play boardgames. It's a great adventure to explore as a couple. My husband and I had an absolute blast last year and look forward to our trip again this year.

There's also lots of great food in the down town Indy area - so makes for a fun "date" after the gaming is done (assuming it ever is "done" at GenCon).

Also - I'm organizing a Ladies Night this year and I'm always happy to meet a fellow gamer girl! Tell her to come to hang out with Queen_Dopplepopolis - I command it!

Hmmm a Ladies Night might be a really good idea, and something to look foward to if I do wind up going

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

It's also the fact that I know how much you enjoy it, and I know you will hardly realize I'm there until it's time to curl up and go to sleep.

As much as I know you would like me to go, I think it will be better for you to go without me, Art. You'll enjoy it so much more then I will, and your not gonna want to deal with me if I'm not enjoying myself.

It's important to remember that GenCon isn't *just* RPGs - it's so much more than that. There are booths selling excellent costumes, anime to watch, events and seminars (lots with a womens focus) to attend, and so so many people to meet.

I assure you, it wouldn't take much effort for YOU to be the one crawling into bed with him long after he has falled asleep.

 

[ruaalien2]

I assure you, it wouldn't take much effort for YOU to be the one crawling into bed with him long after he has falled asleep.

I don't see that happening, but then again, I can be wrong. I'm considering seeing it I can get the four days off from work, and if I can tryign to save up the money but I don't know yet :\

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I don't see that happening, but then again, I can be wrong. I'm considering seeing it I can get the four days off from work, and if I can tryign to save up the money but I don't know yet :\

If you do come - I will definately look forward to meeting you.

GenCon's great - but it isn't for everyone, that's for sure!