Gencon Couples, Help me!

[ruaalien2]

If you do come - I will definately look forward to meeting you.

GenCon's great - but it isn't for everyone, that's for sure!

I guess that is one of my biggest fears, that I'll go and I'll regret going and resent Arthur for 'dragging' me

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

Take some time to look over the Event Listings. I particularly like the Seminars. If there's nothing there that looks like it could be mildly interesting, you may just want to avoid going.

Or, if you go and you have a crappy time, you make HIM go some place you would love next year. Could make for an excellent excuse to spend some time in Cancun or your vacation destination of choice.

 

[SweeneyTodd]

Dude, there's no way you want to bring her with you. It's absolutely true that you'll practically forget she's next to you.

Trust me on this, you don't need to share every hobby and interest with your significant other. Convince her to play D&D once or twice and see how she likes it, sure. Convince her to go to a gigantic gaming convention, no way.

Also, and this has nothing to do with D&D, the codependent way in which you describe your relationship, that you couldn't handle a few days without her without being miserable, makes me think that this gaming thing is pretty insignificant compared to some other issues you may have.

Rua, don't let him guilt you into it. He's obviously doing that, considering that he's, like, pushed you into defending your personal feelings about a trip with your boyfriend on a damn D&D message board.

 

[ruaalien2]

Take some time to look over the Event Listings. I particularly like the Seminars. If there's nothing there that looks like it could be mildly interesting, you may just want to avoid going.

Or, if you go and you have a crappy time, you make HIM go some place you would love next year. Could make for an excellent excuse to spend some time in Cancun or your vacation destination of choice.

Some of the Board Games look good (Monopoly & Scrabble are classic favorites of mine, and between Arthur and one other friend, I've heard quite a bit about Apples to Apples), and there is a seminar or two that looks intresting.

Hmmm, a week with him in Cancun or osme other tropical destnation? Sounds great

 

[Hellefire]

How old are the 2 of you?

No offense to the state, but the only thing I ever liked about IN is the Slippery Noodle...it's a Blues bar in Indy near the Hooter-Dome. If you like Blues, definitely check it out.

As far as the Con itself, well, pick up a chainmail bikini and smile a lot...I promise he'll pay attention to you, as will many other gaming-geeks. Just remind him it was his idea >.

Aaron

 

[ruaalien2]

Dude, there's no way you want to bring her with you. It's absolutely true that you'll practically forget she's next to you.

Trust me on this, you don't need to share every hobby and interest with your significant other. Convince her to play D&D once or twice and see how she likes it, sure. Convince her to go to a gigantic gaming convention, no way.

Also, and this has nothing to do with D&D, the codependent way in which you describe your relationship, that you couldn't handle a few days without her without being miserable, makes me think that this gaming thing is pretty insignificant compared to some other issues you may have.

Rua, don't let him guilt you into it. He's obviously doing that, considering that he's, like, pushed you into defending your personal feelings about a trip with your boyfriend on a damn D&D message board.

I know he means well, and wants to spend the time doing something he loves (being at Gen Con) yet still be able to be with me. Like I told him (and posted in a post above), as much as I would like to be selfish and tell him not to go because it's right before I leave, I could never do that to him and make him that misrable.

We are both find spending time apart from each other and we know this wouldn't even be that big of an issue if I wasn't leaving 2 weeks after (Sept 1) for school. It's going to be hard on both of us with me transfering, neither one of us wants to give up the last few weeks we will have together.

I can save up the money and try to get off of work and go, and hopefully have a good time, but I don't know.

 

[ruaalien2]

How old are the 2 of you?

No offense to the state, but the only thing I ever liked about IN is the Slippery Noodle...it's a Blues bar in Indy near the Hooter-Dome. If you like Blues, definitely check it out.

As far as the Con itself, well, pick up a chainmail bikini and smile a lot...I promise he'll pay attention to you, as will many other gaming-geeks. Just remind him it was his idea >.

Aaron

He's over 21, I won't be until December.

If I was able to wear a bikini and look good I might think about that, but that won't happen any time soon

 

[Hellefire]

Hm, get a fake ID?
Really, it's entirely your decision, but my vote would be for you to go.
Mainly because I think it's good to see and experience new things.
Even *cringe* Indiana

Also, see, I'm a coward. I suck at telling people bad things = things that will make them unhappy or hurt their feelings. So, if I want my SO to go somewhere with me, which is most of the time, I ask her. If I don't (which happens occasionally) I just don't invite her. Of course, she has some woman sense at those times that tells her that she needs to WANT to go exactly at the times I would rather have a little time alone. Anyway, the point being, he obviously would like you to be there. My suggestion is try it. If you don't like it, at least you both know. At least you gave it a shot.

And I still suggest the chainmail bikini

Aaron

 

[ruaalien2]

Also, see, I'm a coward. I suck at telling people bad things = things that will make them unhappy or hurt their feelings. So, if I want my SO to go somewhere with me, which is most of the time, I ask her. If I don't (which happens occasionally) I just don't invite her. Of course, she has some woman sense at those times that tells her that she needs to WANT to go exactly at the times I would rather have a little time alone. Anyway, the point being, he obviously would like you to be there. My suggestion is try it. If you don't like it, at least you both know. At least you gave it a shot.

Aaron

I've told him more then once already that he should use this as a four day (well, if you include the fact that he wants to get there a day before and leave the day after, a sixday) vacation from me but he won't listen.

I also need to see about getting off of work, which might not be possible. I'm considering flying out there on Friday night and coming home with him Monday and only taking a day off of work, but I don't know if that will be possible right now, because of the money.

 

[CarlZog]

I'll be in Johnson and Wales (Providence)

Well, congratulations and welcome to the neighborhood! Culinary, hospitality...?


From everything you're saying about jobs and money, it seems to me like you guys are working too hard to make ends meet for you to spend a lot of cash and half a week on something you unsure of, and where you may not get to see much of him anyway.

Send him off on his own. Save your money and work overtime that week. Then you can afford to take a few days off whatever job you get up here, and go see him when you'll have him all to yourself!

Carl