Folks have been trying this for centuries, and still bigotry is strong in the world. Sure, there are examples of this working with individuals. But, by your own description, this does not scale due to the amount of work involved.
There is a point where you can no longer afford to engage in bespoke, artisanal, small-batch conversion of bigots. You are, in essence, chastising people for failing to choose an inefficient, error-prone path that will not get the job done on the scale necessary at this time.
Not to belabor the obvious, or to step into this ... conversation ... but -
We can all, mostly, agree that while bigotry still exists in this world, overall, and in the aggregate, it is less than it was centuries ago
Which most likely means that the means that we have gotten to the point that we have- tolerance, discussion, understanding, education, forgiveness- are, in fact, the methods that appear to work.
Which makes me think that discarding them because they are inconvenient not "due to the amount of work involved
" seems shortsighted. Mostly because it discounts both the lessons learned in how we've gotten to this point, and seems dismissive of the notion that it is hard work.
But that's me.
*For those that care, transparency is important to me, so to be transparent, I was raised in a rural farming religious family and spent time in the military right after. So when I got out, I considered myself a conservative. However, being an analytical logical thinker, when I was presented with new objective information to analyze, I realized I held some incorrect assumptions and beliefs, and around 2007ish went from conservative to independent, and by 2015 was pretty far into supporting progressive ideals. Fairness and equality are important, and over the past decade, it's clear which "side' supports that and which are fighting against it.
I appreciate what you shared; I would only say that this is emblematic of the more important point. People contain multitudes. It's not all good. And we are not the finished product at the beginning. There is many a person the LGBTQA+ community (which is far from monolithic) that has had to wrestle with these issues in their own life; the bigoted family member that came around (or didn't), the ideological enemy who eventually softened, the acquaintance who could not accept that their religion did not excuse their inhumanity.
None of this is easy
. It's all hard, and it's all personal, and it can be painful. And worst- most of the time, it doesn't even work.* I shared that earlier post with Danny Alcatraz because it brings up these uncomfortable issues, of that certain need for forgiveness, and why the immediate rush we get from condemnation doesn't necessarily add to the value for society.
*Karma, as they say, is justice without the satisfaction.