Lanefan
Victoria Rules
It all depends what you and the other players want from the game, too.
In your opening post, the game you describe as a disaster sounds like just the sort of game in which I'm in my element! Were I in your build-it-all-together group, when asked what I'd like to see I'd certainly include in-party conflict (up to and including death), spying, alternate agendas, and secrets...along with adventures, quests, heroic glory, etc. And while I know this slows the story down, that's fine with me; I expect the campaign to last until it's done, however many years that may take...
As for doing backgrounds ahead of time; while this can be fun for some it isn't always for me...all I want to know for any character I run is what its past profession is, where its home is, and whether it has any family; and after that its adventuring career *becomes* its background.
Lanefan
In your opening post, the game you describe as a disaster sounds like just the sort of game in which I'm in my element! Were I in your build-it-all-together group, when asked what I'd like to see I'd certainly include in-party conflict (up to and including death), spying, alternate agendas, and secrets...along with adventures, quests, heroic glory, etc. And while I know this slows the story down, that's fine with me; I expect the campaign to last until it's done, however many years that may take...

As for doing backgrounds ahead of time; while this can be fun for some it isn't always for me...all I want to know for any character I run is what its past profession is, where its home is, and whether it has any family; and after that its adventuring career *becomes* its background.

Lanefan