I need input on this. I don't know how to feel about it. Right now I feel pretty naughty word.
I had a conversation with my mom yesterday about what I hope to be able to do in the short term and long term. I had said my investment goal is to have enough money so when I end up in a home I can afford one where I'll be cared for and not abused and neglected. She said she wanted me to be able to move in with my sister. She and her husband will not make it without help. They rely too heavily on my mom's income.
I said I couldn't live with my sister or I'd be there now. I'll just be replacing my mom as caregiver and piggy bank.
This is the part I'm having trouble with. I realized tonight, my mom believes I'll never be able to find a partner and will be alone for the rest of my life. It's one thing for me to feel that way. It's REALLY depressing to find out everyone else thinks it to.
A long time ago I would show up at family functions and would be asked where my girlfriend was. Why don't you bring a girl with you? After a time the questions became about my parents instead of a girl. At some point they stopped asking all together. I don't know what is more depressing, when the questions start, change, or stop.
It's not easy to hear it coming from your own mom. She's a lot like me, pessimistic about everything. I know I'm going to be alone. I just don't want to hear it from others. Someone needs to be optimistic.