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[Mad_Jack]

Fun, fun, fun at work today...

Unlike most of the people who work at my location, I got recalled from the other location because they were planning to run one line this week at our location. One person on each shift got recalled to help run the line.

I show up last night to find out our operator called out, so there's nobody to run the line on my shift. (Technically, between me and another guy, we know enough to do the missing guy's job, but we're not supposed to...)

The second shift lead had a job for me, though...

I spent eight hours polishing brass machine parts... Ugh.

 

[Aeson]

I could use some legal advice. My mom's mental condition is getting worse. I want to be able to protect her. We have a home and vehicle in both our names. It's also a little selfish, protecting her also protects myself. I know lawyers besides Danny view this thread. Maybe someone can help. I want to have this conversation with her sooner rather than later. I don't think she'll be incapacitated any time soon. She is getting more forgetful and more easily confused. I don't want to wait until it's too late.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

I could use some legal advice. My mom's mental condition is getting worse. I want to be able to protect her. We have a home and vehicle in both our names. It's also a little selfish, protecting her also protects myself. I know lawyers besides Danny view this thread. Maybe someone can help. I want to have this conversation with her sooner rather than later. I don't think she'll be incapacitated any time soon. She is getting more forgetful and more easily confused. I don't want to wait until it's too late.

Well, you really need to talk to someone in YOUR state.

But there’s one thing I can think of that might be of use- a HEW or HEMS trust. Regardless of what it’s called where you are, a trust like this helps protect assets within it from being taken in most lawsuits or claims.

What Is HEMS and What Does it Mean for Trustees? - Gem McDowell Law | 843-284-1021| Estate-Business-Law-Local

HEMS is an acronym that stands for Health, Education, Maintenance, and Support. It’s commonly used in trusts as a way to guide and restrict the kinds of distributions that a trustee can make to a beneficiary. Purpose and Benefits of HEMS There are a few reasons for and benefits of HEMS. For one...

gemmcdowell.com

Beyond that? Some kind of guardianship may be needed. You might also try to remove her name from certain assets while she’s still lucid.

If you do any of this, cross your Ts and and dot your Is. You don’t want anyone to be able to claim you had “undue influence”.

 

[Aeson]

Well, you really need to talk to someone in YOUR state.

But there’s one thing I can think of that might be of use- a HEW or HEMS trust. Regardless of what it’s called where you are, a trust like this helps protect assets within it from being taken in most lawsuits or claims.

What Is HEMS and What Does it Mean for Trustees? - Gem McDowell Law | 843-284-1021| Estate-Business-Law-Local

HEMS is an acronym that stands for Health, Education, Maintenance, and Support. It’s commonly used in trusts as a way to guide and restrict the kinds of distributions that a trustee can make to a beneficiary. Purpose and Benefits of HEMS There are a few reasons for and benefits of HEMS. For one...

gemmcdowell.com

Beyond that? Some kind of guardianship may be needed. You might also try to remove her name from certain assets while she’s still lucid.

If you do any of this, cross your Ts and and dot your Is. You don’t want anyone to be able to claim you had “undue influence”.

I understand laws differ state to state. There should be general aspects that are the same or similar.

I know my younger sister has said more than once she wants me to make the "plug the plug" decision because she can't. When it comes to other decisions like financial ones she could fight over. Guardianship might be an option we'll have to talk about. We have two older half sisters from our dad's first marriage. They could rear their ugly heads if they feel they might be able to get something even though our dad died more than a decade ago. They would fight us just out of spite and hate.

Legal advice might have been premature. Advice from someone who has been in a situation like this might be more apropos. Others have had elderly parents. Someone should have an idea of what I'm looking at.
I've had trouble talking to her about taking her name off of the joint property. She wants to have them in her name in case something happens to me. I kinda get that.

And thank you for the link. I'm in need of information on trusts. I've been interested in setting one up for myself to protect my assets and provide for my niece and nephew or my children if I ever have any.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

I know my younger sister has said more than once she wants me to make the "plug the plug" decision because she can't. When it comes to other decisions like financial ones she could fight over. Guardianship might be an option we'll have to talk about. We have two older half sisters from our dad's first marriage. They could rear their ugly heads if they feel they might be able to get something even though our dad died more than a decade ago. They would fight us just out of spite and hate.

Legal advice might have been premature. Advice from someone who has been in a situation like this might be more apropos. Others have had elderly parents. Someone should have an idea of what I'm looking at.
I've had trouble talking to her about taking her name off of the joint property. She wants to have them in her name in case something happens to me. I kinda get that.

My parents are largely hale and hardy still, even with increasing infirmities.

But our family (on both sides) tend to be long-lived, so I’ve gotten to witness what happens. And even though my folks are generally fine, they’re not the same as they used to be when we moved into this house 25 years ago.

For one, at some point, Mom stopped driving at night because of problems seeing in those conditions. Now, she hasn’t driven at all in the past 5 years or so because she can’t grip the steering wheel properly. Her license is still active, but when it expires, she’s considering surrendering it in favor of a state ID card.

There’s household tasks I’m the only one young/strong/tall enough to do safely now.

Mom’s hearing- while still testing as “normal”- isn’t as good as it used to be. Repeating phrases and loud TVs are becoming more commonplace.

And thank you for the link. I'm in need of information on trusts. I've been interested in setting one up for myself to protect my assets and provide for my niece and nephew or my children if I ever have any.

You’re welcome!

 

[Aeson]

You have a standing appointment. The person you have the appointment with says they need to change it for the next time. They ask if the change to the schedule is okay for you. You suggest alternatives because clearly the change doesn't work for you. Why ask if the change is okay if they're not going work with you the changes?

 

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[Aeson]

I came home this morning to find a 2-3 inch blood stain on my bed. It soaked all the way to the mattress pad. I don't recall it being there when I left. I have idea what the source is. The cat could have gone into my room while I was out. We can find anything on her either. In the center of the stain was a bloody mass. I'm thinking she passed something but no clue what it is. Nothing in the liter box either.

 

[Aeson]

In the past couple of months the cat has been acting odd. She meows almost continuously. When she's alone in a room it's louder and more howl like as if she doesn't want to be alone. She doesn't want to be on the floor. She doesn't go in the kitchen. She jumps around on the furniture like she's playing 'the floor is lava'. I think it's too cold. We've had her since November. She spent the winter with us. If she thinks the floor is cold in the summer... When I'm not in the room she hangs out behind the TV on the satellite box. I think because that's the warmest spot she can find. When I am in the room she wants me to pet her then she'll lay on my lap to sleep, because I'm warm.

My sister had another cat that did the howling thing too. She died a few months later. The blood is still a mystery. It has to be the cat. I think I would know if it was my blood. It would be on me or my clothes. We're not sure how old she is. 14+ years. When we took her in we didn't expect her to live with us for 9-10 months so far. They were thinking she was near the end. We don't have the money to take her to a vet.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

Maybe she found a critter that invaded the house?

OTOH, you might want to talk to a vet.