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[Aeson]

Well, the brothers have officially started bickering. They’re not fighting over dividing their mom’s estate; they’re bickering about how to handle the details of her transport back to NOLA, who needs to sign what…IOW, every detail.

The oldest is good people, but he’s a little slow. A gentle giant. The middle one is the smallest of the three, but he was born grumpy with a hair trigger temper. The youngest is the largest of all, a bit emotionally stunted, and the most volatile. (And since he the one who found their mom, he’s predictably handling it the worst.)

Another cousin and the youngest brother’s dad are here and helping, but the brothers are still talking about cutting each other out of their lives and other threats.

So sometime VERY soon, I’m going to have to gather them and try to smooth the waters before someone says or does something that can’t easily be taken back.

Have an update? Did you play mediator? Did you ever find out the cause of death? Death of family has a way of causing a great deal of stress. Those that are generally unstable to begin, have an even harder time coping. This is a time siblings need to work together. I really hope they can.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

They had a powwow without me, but including the youngest one’s father. Things are still tense, but they cleared the air on YEARS of stuff.

Still, hazards remain. The youngest admitted he needed help (for a lot of things, many unrelated), but remains the most volatile. The middle one is the grumpiest, and he’s going through a messy, contentious divorce. The oldest is helpful, but a tad clueless.

And my aunt left no will, despite owning all or part of 3 different houses in 2 states. Each of them involves 3-4 potential heirs. It’s a mess.


We’re still awaiting the coroner’s findings. The labs are backed up due to COVID.

 

[Aeson]

It's weird how that works sometimes. Sometimes a situation like this brings people together and they can heal old wounds. It doesn't always fix everything, but it's a start to build from if they want to work at it.

The estate sounds like a real mess too. I suppose some think they have plenty of time to put a will together. I don't have one. I don't really have anyone to leave my stuff to. I'm thinking of stating everything should be sold and the money donated to a charity. Probably wouldn't be very much.

I used to say soap operas couldn't even compete with the level of nonsensical drama in my family. I doubted if anyone would believe the stories if I told them. I guess a lot of families are like that, we just never see it. I don't envy you and yours on this. I hope it gets worked out with as little damage as possible.

 

[Aeson]

My mom told me last week, the cardiologist told her she had a heart attack sometime in the last 6 months. Clearly, it was a very mild one. She thinks she knows when it happened. She wasn't feeling well at work one day.
When I got home from work this morning she asked me to take her to the ER. she said she had chest pains all night. I told her she should have called me sooner. I could have gotten someone to cover at work. Since she told me that last week I started to wonder if I should find a day job. I'm worried about leaving her home alone at night.

 

[Aeson]

Not a heart attack this time. They're thinking of keeping her to do tests.

 

[trappedslider]

Not a heart attack this time. They thinking of keeping her to do tests.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

The estate sounds like a real mess too. I suppose some think they have plenty of time to put a will together. I don't have one. I don't really have anyone to leave my stuff to. I'm thinking of stating everything should be sold and the money donated to a charity. Probably wouldn't be very much.

People hate talking and thinking about end-of-life stuff in general.

I’m planning on posting a thread about getting your affairs in order soon. I’m an attorney who has handled a handful of probate matters, but it’s not my main area of focus. Basically, I was helping out people who were in desperate need of an attorney to at least get things moving through the system while they continued searching for a specialist…on my advice. And every last estate I’ve been involved with had serious issues (not of my creation). One was messed up in such a way that the probate judge had never seen anything like it in his time on the bench. His clerk had, though…one time in 40 years.

I say all of this even though I don’t have a will (for reasons), but the reasons are slightly outweighed by the reasons I should. My best buddy is in the same boat, and we’ve been talking about it (his dad died a week before my aunt).

Like you, neither of us have anyone in particular to leave stuff to.

But a little careful thought may reveal certain charities that could benefit from your estate, however small. That’s what I’m going to suggest for people like me, my friend, or you.

Also, hope your mom gets better!

 

[Aeson]

Someone dun blowed up the Georgia Guidestones.


First on the list of suspects should be Kandiss Taylor. She's a former candidate for governor and makes the Mad Hatter look sane. She actually filmed a campaign ad at the Guidestones saying she would destroy them if elected. She believes they're satanic and evil.

Check out Last Week Tonight's video "Rocks". I can't post it here. You must watch this.

I cannot believe someone would do this. Those rock ain't hurt nobody. While not the level of the things the Taliban destroyed, it's the same principle.

 

[Aeson]

I should have put some money on it. It would be an easy bet. I knew they'd end up keeping my mom for the weekend. They're going to do a heart catheterization on Monday. If my mom has blocked arteries, I know I do. I don't have insurance. I'll never be able to afford the tests or procedures to fix it.

On the recent episode of The Orville, Lt. Malloy was sent to 2015 and trapped in the past. He died in 2068 on what would be my 93 birthday. I have no chance of making it that far. It was still amusing to hear my birthdate mentioned. I'll hear it media from time to time.

 

[Aeson]

Sadie Sink/ Max from Stranger Things is a beast on the drums.