Although to me needing approval is fairly synonymous to needing permission, I can see how you might make a different reading by giving more weight to other parts of the game text.
A concern though is - the player does all that work. What happens if GM does not give their approval for whatever reason makes sense to them?
Depends. Is the DM just saying "nah" and that's it? Or is it, "Hey, I wanna talk about this, I'm not comfortable with everything going on here, I have some ideas"? Because the former is sounding pretty dysfunctional. The latter ain't.
Remotely, yes
I'd be curious what you think that is.
It's not make a quest and discuss it with the DM. It's make a quest and see if it's too disruptive to the campaign, if it is the DM says no and you make another quest or he offers up a less disruptive idea. Rinse and repeat until you and/or he have come up with something he approves of(it isn't too disruptive).
I have to say that I'm amused that someone who is using the pejorative Mother May I in this thread is upset by the use of another pejorative. If the use of Player Entitlement bothers you, perhaps consider that before using Mother May I again.
Yes. That was my bloody point, Max.
I was
literally calling out the tone policing. I was, simultaneously,
actually making a point while also
criticizing the tone policing.
Because it sucks, doesn't it? It sucks to be told your whole argument is simply unacceptable. To be told you're
not allowed to have an opinion because your opinion is uncouth, or disrespectful, or insufficiently deferential. It sucks to have people
exploit the social contract to shut you down before you can even get started.
It'd be real heckin' nice to have something that could short-circuit that, wouldn't it? Something we could employ to prevent the issue from getting that far. Something where we could call out certain behaviors
before they become pointing fingers and laying blame and
using pejoratives because that's all we have left.
Maybe the "pro-authority" people should be considering some of that.
I think the player in question wouldn't be doing it because they felt unjustifiably entitled. Therefore, they may well stumble butt-backwards across the threshold between justifiable and unjustifiable.
I really, truly don't see how one could do so. "You
will give me what I demand, regardless of context or justification" isn't something you can accidentally do. But, as I've demonstrated with multiple actual examples (both practical and theoretical), MMI can happen even when a DM
thinks she is being genuinely permissive. The "roll 6 times to complete a simple stealth challenge, one fail and you lose" situation, for example. Lots and lots of DMs out there, even today, don't realize that that's a really crappy thing to do and is
effectively saying "no" despite
thinking one is saying "yes." Because it is, in fact, possible to accidentally shut someone down while truly believing you are supporting and encouraging them.
There's no way to make demands of your DM without being aware that you are, in fact,
demanding something. You might not agree that you're being unjustified in doing so, but the act is undeniable.
Although that is not really my point here. I just feel that this argument - well - it's good for the gander.
Honestly don't know what you mean by that.
Since it came up earlier, I think it's also an example of the very shield of
tone policing referenced a few posts earlier in
1907 in action
Then lay it out. Don't hide behind oblique references. I defended my positions. I gave my justifications. I said why I think one thing is a greater problem than the other.
Hell, I even
tried to introduce new terms earlier in the thread, remember? I tried being respectful. It didn't take. No one but me used the new phrasing. Not even people upset with it. So I stopped, because it was a waste of keystrokes and readers' time to constantly explain what RL/GL meant.
And, important to note here, I'm not the one who started the "tone policing" argument. I'm not the one who tried to use that as a cudgel to silence discussion. I just finally got sick and tired of
other people using it while not applying it to themselves--and gave them a taste of their own medicine. And, as I said to Max above: Sucks, doesn't it?
If you don't like it, don't use those arguments yourself. Pretty simple, if you ask me.