I m a girl get over it

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

Fair enough, but that's like expecting the small majority of any group to stop thinking that an outsider can't do what they do.

It's like asking those who think that men shouldn't wear dresses should grow up, or those who say white boys can't dance or play Basketball.

Meaning, you're probably not going to change the world through the message board. Best way to make those people grow up is to have more people like you in the world. Spread the message, SJ.

What can I say Im a stubborn dreamer

 

[reveal]

1) My wife is part of our gaming group.

2) I introduced her to gaming.

3) She, too, thinks geeks are hot.

Moral: It's not everyone. It's usually males who are insecure about talking to females or interacting with them in any way who seem to act this way. There are also males who still believe that the female is the "lesser" gender.

As the song goes, the female of the species is more deadlier than the male.

 

[Desdichado]

Gaming is NOT for wives who fall asleep during the climactic moment of the evening...!

I can honestly say that nothing like this has ever happened to my wife.

Who doesn't game, and after a brief try, decided she has no real interest in doing so either.

 

[julius27]

Most girls that game (in my experience) are overweight, have acne, wear glasses, are tomboys, etc. Most "attractive girls" who game (again, in my experience and referring to the skirt wearing, clear complexioned, middle to light-weight ladies) do it to flaunt, be with a bunch of guys that don't talk to "girls like her" much, or trying out her boyfriend's hobby. Most guys that game are insecure in some part of their mundane life and use roleplaying as a way to exercise control over the world even though that world is fictional. Many times, if an attractive girl is present, the fact awakens that insecurity and has a negative affect on a guy's playing. One girl I know who plays WH40k is a little overweight and wears glasses, so although she's a very attractive girl, she gives off that vibe you're talking about. My stepdaughter is of the second category and has only tried gaming to fit in with her husband's friends. She won't have her character act unless she is directly asked about it and therefore finds it a boring hobby. What I would like to know more about is why do girls game? I know that sometimes, it's the same reason I gave for most guys gaming, but there seems to me that female gamers are more complex than that. Well, females in general, for that matter. Maybe I could help my stepdaughter be more involved in her husband's life outside of family funtions.

 

[S'mon]

But where you are coming off in a somewhat poor light (to me anyway) is where you say, "I don't really wish to participate I just would appreciate the exceptance that I take an interest in their hobby and to be to be taken seriously for it." It smacks just a bit of the argument that you don't really want to be in the club but you demand the right to be in the club.

I think this is unfair. My wife likes D&D, she plays Neverwinter Nights avidly and whenever my brother in law (a talented highschool basketball player jock type) is around she and he get me to GM a D&D game for them, but she has no interest in playing in my regular Sunday afternoon D&D game - she doesn't want the regular commitment or having to fight for attention at a packed table of veterans. I don't see anything wrong with saying "I like D&D but I don't want to play in my boyfriend's campaign, I don't think it would suit me".

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

I very much disagree. Gaming is not a turn-off. What might be a turn-off is the average gamer, and when you mention you game, you might evoke the standard stereotypes of gamers, and that might be a turn-off. That is, of course, if you do absolutely nothing to differentiate yourself from the standard stereotypes.

If you're an obsessive gamer who opts to spend his time reading through books in the basement of your parent's house in lieu of showering, then yeah, that's a turn-off. But not because of the gaming, because of who you are.

If you're a gamer that's funny, reasonably intelligent, confident, and cautiously nice, being a gamer won't ever get in your way.

Gaming is a turn-on, I think my bf isso sexy when he talks about dnd and I admire his passion for the game.

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

Appearently with all the confusion, You'll just have to find a chain mail bikini & post a picture of yourself so we can put this whole Physical Appearence/Style debate to rest

I am just kidding. But the "ideal" that many people think of when one says "Gamer Chick" is a overwieght, no make-up, always wears shirt & jeans, male version of dorkness. Note: there is a whole subset of White Wolf "Goth Chicks" sterotype. I've met some. They made me fear for my life. (Most White Wolf Player's don't fit the "Goth" Stereotype, but I've met enough to know how the idea got started).

Fortuantly, times are changing. With Morgan Webb, from X-play, Ashely Judd and other "Girly-Girls", to quote a California Gov, showing their interest in sports, video games, and yes, even D&D, the ideas of "girls only do or enjoy this" is breaking down from a societal perspective.

Even better the D&D player sterotype as "High Lords OF GEEKDOM" (which was a MAJOR improvement from "High Lord of SATAN who will scrifice your baby kitten to gain a level") is dieing out, with D&D being just another thing some people do.

Much nicer if you ask me,

But, if you WANT to post that chain-mail bikini pic, I might do the same (same result as Cause Fear 15' radius in my case though)

Here is me in a bikini but unfortunately not chain mail. It doesn't matter what you look like and I don't think Im attractive or ugly, I don't think what I look like has any relavance to the game.
<img src="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v730/sarajaine/sarajaine.jpg" alt="Image hosted by Photobucket.com">

 

[S'mon]

Re girls finding D&D a turn-off - sure, back when I was 15-18 this seemed a very common attitude among 15-18 year-olds, anyway. I think this lessens as people get older. Or maybe the girls just get more desperate.

 

[dungeon blaster]

I very much disagree. Gaming is not a turn-off. What might be a turn-off is the average gamer, and when you mention you game, you might evoke the standard stereotypes of gamers, and that might be a turn-off. That is, of course, if you do absolutely nothing to differentiate yourself from the standard stereotypes.

If you're an obsessive gamer who opts to spend his time reading through books in the basement of your parent's house in lieu of showering, then yeah, that's a turn-off. But not because of the gaming, because of who you are.

If you're a gamer that's funny, reasonably intelligent, confident, and cautiously nice, being a gamer won't ever get in your way.

Haha, well maybe we'll just have to agree to disagree! Or maybe you hang out with less superficial, shallow girls than I do? I guess the only way to really answer this would be to ask women how they feel. Of course, this board isn't exactly the place to do it.

 

[fusangite]

Re girls finding D&D a turn-off - sure, back when I was 15-18 this seemed a very common attitude among 15-18 year-olds, anyway. I think this lessens as people get older. Or maybe the girls just get more desperate.

Escalating desperation on the part of others... this is the hope that keeps me getting out of bed every morning.