I m a girl get over it

[I'm A Banana]

I'm really into dnd,i don't wish to impose on my partners game and I want the small majority of people in this world who play dnd and don't think that girls should play to grow up. Nothing more or less.

Fair enough, but that's like expecting the small majority of any group to stop thinking that an outsider can't do what they do.

It's like asking those who think that men shouldn't wear dresses should grow up, or those who say white boys can't dance or play Basketball.

Meaning, you're probably not going to change the world through the message board. Best way to make those people grow up is to have more people like you in the world. Spread the message, SJ.

 

[the Jester]

Sarajaine, I'm just the opposite of the jerks you've had the misfortune to deal with: I have actively recruited a good dozen women and/or girls into the hobbey over the years.

If you're ever in my area (Davis, CA), drop a line and we'll talk.

 

[S'mon]

I'm really into dnd,i don't wish to impose on my partners game and I want the small majority of people in this world who play dnd and don't think that girls should play to grow up. Nothing more or less.

Fair enough. If you're interested in playing, as well as looking for an advert seeking players you might consider recruiting & GMing a group yourself, aimed at novice players. That way you can set the tone of the game the way you want it. Randomlings http://www.randomlingshouse.com/ is a good place to go for advice re this kind of thing. No reason why group should be all-female, a good mix is best (Randomling has some horror stories about her as a new GM GMing for a group of nasty male adolescents).

 

[S'mon]

. And yes, there is a point to be made about attractive girls and gaming - that the more attractive a girl is, the less people will associate her with gaming.

Which is kinda silly if true - judging by my experience of 2 years of Gencon UK gamer girls run the gamut of looks just like gamer guys do, with no apparent stereotype. Except an awful lot of people wore black t-shirts.

Edit: Actually AIR going by Gencon UK the stereotypical male gamer would be mid-20s, clean-cut, slim, a little pale, with short neat brown hair and a clean black t-shirt, slightly above average looks-wise.

 

[Vraille Darkfang]

THANK U! Its fair to say that was exactly my point. I don't look like a gamer chick and hate steriotype as much as the next person. I just feel that you would'nt get the "she likes RPG's vibe from me" that was it!

Appearently with all the confusion, You'll just have to find a chain mail bikini & post a picture of yourself so we can put this whole Physical Appearence/Style debate to rest

I am just kidding. But the "ideal" that many people think of when one says "Gamer Chick" is a overwieght, no make-up, always wears shirt & jeans, male version of dorkness. Note: there is a whole subset of White Wolf "Goth Chicks" sterotype. I've met some. They made me fear for my life. (Most White Wolf Player's don't fit the "Goth" Stereotype, but I've met enough to know how the idea got started).

Fortuantly, times are changing. With Morgan Webb, from X-play, Ashely Judd and other "Girly-Girls", to quote a California Gov, showing their interest in sports, video games, and yes, even D&D, the ideas of "girls only do or enjoy this" is breaking down from a societal perspective.

Even better the D&D player sterotype as "High Lords OF GEEKDOM" (which was a MAJOR improvement from "High Lord of SATAN who will scrifice your baby kitten to gain a level") is dieing out, with D&D being just another thing some people do.

Much nicer if you ask me,

But, if you WANT to post that chain-mail bikini pic, I might do the same (same result as Cause Fear 15' radius in my case though)

 

[jmucchiello]

She does indeed listen to me talk for hours on the phone about gaming - to other people! I call the other guys in the group a lot mid-week to discuss tactics etc, at which point she can hear everything I say.

Perhaps you should talk with her about it. Sounds like she'd like that.

 

[IcyCool]

But sometimes even if you don't make it a problem, it's still a problem.

I have to ask, why is it a problem?

 

[dungeon blaster]

I haven't ever been to a con so I'll have to take your word for it, but of all the female gamers I know, none of them are ugly.

Icy Cool: What I am saying is that even if don't act ashamed of gaming when around the girls, the girls might still have a problem with gaming. Am I condoning this behavior? No. I am merely being realistic about the perceptions of gaming and its affect on one's desirability.

 

[Rel]

I think dnd is really awesome and given the option I would play but what prevents me from it is the attitude towards me playing that is the problem.I don't demand the right to play it just would be nice.

As much as we ENWorlders would like to think that we are the "super-duper, extra special, creme de la creme" of gaming (and I assure you, we are ), I'm not convinced that we are so totally superior to the general gaming population in your area that their notions about female gamers are 180 degrees from ours.

I think that if you were to put out some feelers for other gaming groups in your area, you might be surprised to find that they were more accepting than you seem to claim. I'll just bet that having a female player who is well read and savvy about the rules would be a welcome addition to most groups in your area (those that are seeking players anyway).

But if you'd rather not then I must admit that it would be a lot easier to go on feeling affronted and agrieved that the man is keeping you down.

 

[Will Nelson]

I disagree. I know a lot of girls who find gaming a turn-off, and that has absolutely NOTHING to do with me or anyone else. Society has programmed them to think that way. I'm not going to try defending myself except to say that you don't know me.

I very much disagree. Gaming is not a turn-off. What might be a turn-off is the average gamer, and when you mention you game, you might evoke the standard stereotypes of gamers, and that might be a turn-off. That is, of course, if you do absolutely nothing to differentiate yourself from the standard stereotypes.

If you're an obsessive gamer who opts to spend his time reading through books in the basement of your parent's house in lieu of showering, then yeah, that's a turn-off. But not because of the gaming, because of who you are.

If you're a gamer that's funny, reasonably intelligent, confident, and cautiously nice, being a gamer won't ever get in your way.