I m a girl get over it

[Desdichado]

Appearance is particularly important to attractive girls (sorry guys) as a whole. Obviously, not all girls see that way, but as unfair as it may seem to some (although there's nothing really unfair about it IMO), that's just the way the world works.

Luckily for me, my wife didn't totally see things that way. Not that I'm a troglodyte or anything like that, but my wife far surpasses me in appearance. Especially these days that I've gotten a little bit puffier around the middle.

 

[Desdichado]

Wanna know what's funny? My wife is starting to really get into d&d, and so when we go to look for new books at the local stores (Riders or Underworld), whenever she asks questions to the staff, they address their answers to me, or they just ignore her. It's mind boggling.

So, I'm guessing you're from either Ann Arbor or west suburban Detroit, then? I'm curious what you do in this case; if it were me, I'd say something borderline rude like, "what are you talking to me for, she asked the question," and make everyone feel foolish and awkward. Then again, I tend to demand that others respect my wife.

Of course, I'm pretty disgusted with the Riders folks anyway. I always know quite a bit more about their gaming products than they do.

 

[dungeon blaster]

Well there are exceptions

 

[Klaus]

First of all, welcome to the boards! With 38 posts in a day, you could be catching up with our resident postmaster Crothian in no time!

Second of all, welcome to the hobby! My current gaming group consists of me, my wife, a friend (who's been playing with me for more than 10 years) and his wife (so 3 PCs, 2 being women). I'm trying to reel in another friend (who already games) and his girlfriend (who never gamed).

Third of all, there are quite a few druid-oriented Prestige Classes. Complete Adventurer has the Daggerspell Shaper, Master of Many Forms, Wild Plains Outrider, Beastmaster, Fochlucan Lyrist (druid/bard). The Master of Radiance from the book Libris Mortis (you can find the class in the WotC website) has a very good sun-oriented vibe that, IMHO, meshes well with the druid (plus the illustration of a female elf druid/master of radiance is way cool!).

Fourth of all, feel free to peruse my on-line galleries for inspiration, as I try to make artwork that appeals to gamers of both genders!

Game On!

 

[Yeoman]

So, I'm guessing you're from either Ann Arbor or west suburban Detroit, then? I'm curious what you do in this case; if it were me, I'd say something borderline rude like, "what are you talking to me for, she asked the question," and make everyone feel foolish and awkward. Then again, I tend to demand that others respect my wife.

Of course, I'm pretty disgusted with the Riders folks anyway. I always know quite a bit more about their gaming products than they do.

Yep we live in Ypsilanti. Yeah I give them a ton of crap over that, it annoys us to no end. It's funny, ever since we moved out here, she has a ton of problems like that. She gets ignored trying to buy video games, alcohol, and when we went to get her a rifle. A lot of shops seem to be downright rude here in michigan, it's a big culture shock from living in a real friendly area near Denver to coming here.

 

[S'mon]

How long do you think it takes for new players to get a grasp on the game? Obviously it depends on the individual but knowing that I catch on quickly I was wondering how long it would take?

I inducted my friend Jamz into D&D, he seemed to get a grasp on it within a few minutes - he was playing a 6th level Sorcerer AFAICR. He admittedly did Fireball his own cohorts. It varies a lot, but I'd say generally 2-3 sessions will give a working knowledge on how the 3rd edition D&D game functions in-play.

 

[Desdichado]

Yep we live in Ypsilanti.

Heh. I live in Canton, so I'm right around the corner. Heck, our best friends (and my Blood Bowl buddies) live in Ypsi, so we head out there all the time. Not that it's more than a 10-15 minute drive...

A lot of shops seem to be downright rude here in michigan, it's a big culture shock from living in a real friendly area near Denver to coming here.

Yeah, us too coming up from Texas. It's like nobody expects to have to do any work when a customer comes in; they're just annoyed. I don't get it.

 

[I'm A Banana]

Regarding my secret, I'm not ashamed of my love for geeks I just wish they would stop thinking they can't get a normal attractive girl just because they play dnd..its not like you all have the bubonic plague or anything! You give yourselves a stigma by being so paranoid about it... any girl worth knowing will like you for who you are and except that gaming is a part of that

Quoted for the tr00f. You should bounce around our off-topic forums, every couple of months they've got sad stories of guys who could use a kick in the pants like this.

The more paranoid gamer guys have tended to have really bad experiences with girls growing up and haven't dealt with them in the best ways, usually. A beautiful woman is a special kind of dangerous for a heartfelt man, since she can hurt him in ways his guy friends can't. And when some have felt that hurt, D&D can become an escapist "safety zone." So a lovely girl coming into that zone can suddenly make them affraid again. Old wounds barely healed and all that.

That said, be prepared for the crazies. Most of us are normal gents with a nerdy interest, but there's a vocal minority of what a lot of my female friends have called "congoblins" running around that don't play nice with others. So if you're heading out into the world looking to join a group, make sure to keep an eye peeled for the creepy, and don't let them crush the enthusiasm for the game. I'll let Something*Positive explain....

http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp12272001.shtml
http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp02052002.shtml
http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp04292002.shtml
http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp04302002.shtml

How long do you think it takes for new players to get a grasp on the game? Obviously it depends on the individual but knowing that I catch on quickly I was wondering how long it would take?

Like with any game, playing = knowing. Once you've picked up the dice and made a character and spun the minis 'round, it's pretty intuitive.

 

[Rystil Arden]

How long do you think it takes for new players to get a grasp on the game? Obviously it depends on the individual but knowing that I catch on quickly I was wondering how long it would take?

If you've read the books, you should be ready to take off and explore the world of D&D in your very first game. I've even had people who never read the rules who took to it on their very first session. Good luck!

 

[Elf Witch]

I considered that, and I feel that may have been "part" of her argument, but honestly I think she was bragging. Of course, only she knows for sure, right? I could very well have been completely off in my observation, but it doesn't mean I won't make that observation if I think I am correct. For example, when she mentions she looks like a cheerleader-type...if she had said that she doesn't look like the stereotypical gamer girl I might not have thought of it as bragging. And yes, there is a point to be made about attractive girls and gaming - that the more attractive a girl is, the less people will associate her with gaming. I understand that.

As we all know only ugly girls really game the rest are pretenders only there to get a man or keep an eye on their boy friend or husband.

What turned me off this post was how often you pointed how pretty you were then to prove we had to have the picture in the bikini.

I am female gamer and yes I am overweight but I do not have pimples nor do I dress in ratty shirts and jeans. I wear nice clothes even dresses and make up and jewlery, perfume.

I know other gamers who fit the sterotype to a tee but I also know gamers who don't how about a former Miss Florida/USA.

I don't know you but I have met "girls" who use there looks in everything they do and then wonder why they are not taken seriously. It is the way the put themselves across. The way they talk, dress and guys and other women pick up on it and don't take them or what they seriously. It is true that beautiful women have a harder time being taken seriously but sometimes they contribute to it by the way they act. Because for some reason they always need to be the center of attention they don't share well. Especially with other woman. This is not meant to be a blanket statement of all beautiful women.

If you really want to game go out and find a group. It is a great hobby. Since you have a baby on the way maybe online games might be the best. because as I mother I know how limited your times is about to become.