Title? I don't need no stinkin' title.
Different people play different ways. Did I ever say your style of play was "ridiculous"? I don't know how to say this that it doesn't sound like an apology that's not really an apology, but all I've done for quite some time now is state how I run my game. So ... sorry if my minor fits of sarcasm bother you but I don't see much of a difference between telegraphing where traps are to the point that nobody is surprised by them is any different than putting a "trap here" sign. I don't see how players could know all possible outcomes of failure unless you tell them things the PCs wouldn't know.Placing “trap here” signs is another thing I don’t think many, if any of us, do. There is a world of difference between telegraphing traps and outright telling the players there’s a trap here. I understand it’s hard to picture when you haven’t seen these techniques in actual play. There are actual plays where the DMs use this technique you could watch/read/listen to if you’re curious. I’m pretty sure Iserith has done a few. But with or without an actual play examples, it helps of you start from the assumption that a technique you’re unfamiliar with does work, and endeavor tio understand how, instead of starting from the assumption that a technique is nonsense and demanding that its proponents prove to you that it doesn’t ruin the game.
If it's not obvious by now, I take quite a different approach to my D&D games. As stated up-thread I view D&D as a simplified simulator for letting people imagine what it would be like to be the protagonist of a fantasy story. So simulator first, game second.
As far as iserith, he blocked me a long time ago because of this topic. I think it bothered him that I didn't just agree with him ... but he wouldn't ever say exactly what it was that bothered him other then "don't do that". When I asked what "that" was he blocked me.
P.S. It doesn't really help to say that "if you just played it like we did you'd agree with us". Just because I disagree with you, doesn't mean I don't understand you.