I'm a little depressed, and I don't want to be the only one.

[Ginnel]

I would like to present the alternative twist on the situation, I'm currently in 3 games a week but I spend my time wishing I was with a likeminded female who I could wile away the hours with watching DVDs sharing wine and chatting and all that coupley stuff, eventually starting up a family in the future, but had no luck with this for the last few years and can't see it changing anytime soon.

Hehe : ) there is no perfection/balance just a constant struggle to achieve it, something will always be slightly or majorly not to your wanting.

 

[Vyvyan Basterd]

I've been married almost 12 years, have two kids (3 and 7), and I commute 4-5 hours a day five days a week.

But my weekly Friday night game is still going. Not everyone can always make it, sometimes even myself. The game used to run until 4 am when I was much younger, got scaled back to 2 am when I got married (as a fair compromise with my wife), and has now scaled back to midnight, so we usually get to play for 5 hours almost every Friday.

I did take a break from gaming when I was studying for the CPA exam. Your wife's studies may be the one thing standing in your way. Once she's done you may find you have the time again.

 

[Mustrum_Ridcully]

After university, I exchanged time for money. But I think it is not as "bad" for me as for others - I don't have a family or a large home that needs tending. Of course, either has its own perks.

I
And my girlfriend would rather stab herself in the eye with a spoon than roll dice with me :/

Maybe you should try Dread or Castle Falkenstein then - no dice (Jenga tower or cards)?

 

[DaveMage]

Gamer's life conundrum:

When you're a teen, you have time to play, but no money to buy; when you're an adult you have money to buy but no time to play.

Retirement should start at age 35.

 

[rkwoodard]

boats are sailing the same

Yep, trade out the 5-year old daughter for a 3 year old son and we are of a like mind.

I have an additional problem, the wives of my 2 gaming buddies like me and my wife. That is bad? YES, they don't understand the allure of gaming (my wife does, she rocks). But to the other wives it is a question of

WHY GAME, WE CAN JUST SOCIALIZE ALL TOGETHER. The husbands are not up to taking all the flak to argue, so we game maybe once every 3 months.

I am trying to get them on board with some online gaming.

You are not alone,

RK

 

[TerraDave]

Oh yeah, I know how you feel.

We are reviving the campaign, with a long session, every other month. But its something.

I am hoping that DDI will rise from the vaporware graveyard so that we can at least add some virtual play, and maybe, in some distant future, go back to once a month.

 

[Mallus]

Anyway, I just wanted to know if anyone else in a similar boat as me.

Don't feel bad Simon. I have the job I like and the wife I love but no children, and I still feel like a have little time for gaming and like pursuits. So take heart --and perhaps feel a bit superior -- becasue there's someone on this board who manages his time far worse than you...

 

[Eridanis]

Yup, similar boat here. Your priorities are certainly in the right place, and you should stay that course. In time, things will moderate, and you and your wife will have more recharge time. I bet in ten years there will be a lot of threads along the lines of "my fifteen year old daughter wants to start a gaming group - which module should I run for them?"

 

[Mercule]

Right there with you, man. I've got four kids, ages 8, 5, 3, and 1. The older two are starting to get into various activities, too. Even setting limits (one non-academic activity per kid) that can snowball quickly with soccer twice a week, plus game, and dance once a week for a couple months. The other players in my group also have burgeoning families.

We still have been managing to get together 75% of Tuesdays for the last several years -- probably due in no small part to inertia. Still, I've decided that I don't have the time or ability to run the deep, detailed campaigns I did when I was in high school/college and could survive well enough on an average of 4 hours sleep a night. It's all about modules.

 

[Wild Gazebo]

Yeppers! No time, coupled with confilcting schedules...I haven't gamed since a one off in January with some old college buddies while on a business trip. I've had the 4E core books since the day they were released--and I haven't played a single encounter.

So, yeah...this is beginning to feel like a support group.