If the leader is a draegloth then we wont even need to worry about skin color because i just wont look human. Too monstrous. Also way cooler than drow priestess. Its a drow demon hybrid. Also we could dodge the bullet of normies saying "hey why is it a meany pants matriarchy" because we can just point at that thing and say "wait wait wait. See not all the meenie pants leaders are female. That one is male. Stop screaming mysogyny. Goos fraba...thats it...the bad guys arent all evil matriarchs in this race." Meanwhile the d&d hobbyists can know the truth. That being that somewhere there is a high priestess this thing calls mommy dearest calling the shots (unless shes dead).Maybe humanoids from the underdark have got ecolocallitation, like bats and dolphins.
Other trick to about controversy about darkskins is easy, the drows are totally covered, with hoods and masks. Then if we can't see the color of the skin, but maybe only the leader, a albine, only fans will notice they are drows.