My ex gf had a similar perspective to yours. She was also half black and felt similarly. She also felt (as do i) drow would be more or less not comparable to humans (as they are fey) and that if you had to force a comparison to any group pf humans they would more reasonably be compared to a european tribe the norse encountered as many fey are inspired by specifically local tribes europeans encountered. Not far off peoples.
But also there was the strong sentiment that comparing black and part black people to fantasy races was actually the weird and offensove part. They are different as can be and one is in fact real and possibly has opinions of their own on the matter.