Not-so happy Valentine's Day

[Sidekick]

Well lord knows why I’m posting this here but I have to tell someone and being across the world from all my closest friends I guess it falls to you guys.

My partner & I split up last night. She’s been in my life for 7 years, since I was 19. Now here I am on the other side of the world from my parents and friends, sharing a room with a woman I love but can’t be with.

And I just don’t know where we went wrong either. Argg

Oh well we had good times, we achieved a lot, saw a lot of Europe together, I helped her beat cancer. I guess in the end we just couldn’t keep it going.

so there you have it, I’m now single for the first time in my adult life, this will prove to be… interesting.

On the upside it was very civil, no-one yelled or cursed. We’ve agreed to split all our money that’s in the joint accounts (both here and home), the stuff needs to be split as well, heck we’ve even agreed to act as roommates for the meantime while I decide when I’m going home.

I can’t stay here, London’s broken for me now.

Happy valentines day indeed – it’s my first day of single life.

 

[Dioltach]

Wow, that sucks. I can't offer any advice that won't sound trite, so I'll just wish you the best of luck.

 

[BOZ]

wow - ouch, that's some bad timing.

 

[Aurora]

Best of luck man. That really blows. I hope you find someplace to settle where you'll be happy.

 

[SevenStar]

I'd say be thankful that it's not a vicious or bitter breakup. Yeah, it sucks, that much is for sure, but at least you don't have the anger and animosity between the two of you. Especially since you're living in the same place still. Your breakup is definitely in the minority as far as that's concerned, so be grateful at least for that aspect.

My hope is that you'll continue to keep your friendship. Best wishes for ya, man.

-7Star

 

[Sidekick]

I'd say be thankful that it's not a vicious or bitter breakup. Yeah, it sucks, that much is for sure, but at least you don't have the anger and animosity between the two of you. Especially since you're living in the same place still. Your breakup is definitely in the minority as far as that's concerned, so be grateful at least for that aspect.

My hope is that you'll continue to keep your friendship. Best wishes for ya, man.

-7Star

Oh Ben be very grateful for that. Essentially we both didn't want to end it until now as it was so darn inconvenient to do so. At least we don't have kids or a house or anything big like that. It's just a tenency agreement, some cash and the rest is just stuff...

At least we've never really celebrated valentines day either.

thanks for the kind words people.

 

[Jesus_marley]

Dude, I feel your pain.

Your story (with a few minor differences) is almost exactly like what happened to me a couple of years back. 8 years together. she breaks it off without warning the day before our anniversary and a week before my birthday.

be glad it was civil. It could have been much worse.

 

[Treebore]

Civil is a heck of a lot better than a angry break up. It hurts now, but it will go away and you will hopefully meet the right one next time around.

I did similiar, with a somewhat amicable divorce. The next (serious) woman has been my wife for 16 years and almost 3 months now. Still going strong. Getting better and better, actually.

So get the pain over with (let go), spend some time learning what you can from it, and just keep your heart open for the "right" one when she comes along.

Don't expect it to be obvious. When I met my wife to be my first thoughts were, "There is no way I would date, let alone marry, a crazy woman like her!" I sure was wrong. Thank God!

I asked her to marry me within 3 weeks of our dating. I had only "known" her for about 3 months prior to our dating, and not very well. We ran into each other only once every week or two, at our D&D game we both played in. We didn't talke to eaqch other much.

I actually took a "second look" at her because of the way she played her character. It clued me into the fact that I had made a bad "first opinion/impression" of her.

Fortunately for me she had been interested in me from the first or second time we met. So we went out on dates, hit it off great. Stayed up talking all night (yes, just talking) several times, then before our third full week of dating I asked her to marry me. The rest is history.

So don't think badly about your future. There will be another woman. She will be much better on many levels and you'll be happier than you ever thought you could be again.

Just be patient. Learn and grow from this experience. The best is yet to come.

 

[Treebore]

Here is another interesting event. During my seventh year of marriage my one and only ex-wife calls me up out fo the blue. She apologizes for hwo she used to be, etc... Essentially she wanted me back and was wanting to know if my marriage was bad enough to get divorced and give "us" another try.

Fortunately, thanks to her (my ex-wife) I knew how well I had it, and I couldn't help but laugh at her.

I haven't heard from her ever since.

Just thought you would appreciate that in your current position.

 

[Mycanid]

Ouch...

Sorry to hear that sir. Major bummer. But, as others have said, at least it was not a nasty, violent separation. I hope things improve for you ... and at the time, the place and with the people it should.