On number of ignores

[Snarf Zagyg]

When has the phrase "you need to educate yourself" in a disagreement ever worked well? I'm guessing as well as telling your angry partner to calm down

Can you think of perhaps another way of putting it?

“Why yes, your butt does look big in that.”

 

[FitzTheRuke]

“Why yes, your butt does look big in that.”

That oughtta do it!

 

[Maxperson]

This is a problematic attitude. Your job isn't to treat my forum like the wild west. I have no sympathy for it. Like Gradine said, your choice and your bed; you've been ignored by so many people that the forums are difficult to use for you.

It's a character flaw which I know about and while it may not seem like it, I work on pretty hard. I was abused pretty badly by my father and picked on a lot in school, and the way I handled it was to fight back. It's pretty hard to overcome things ingrained like that, but I keep trying.

I mean, since you won't let it lie - yes, you are on that list. Not the top person, but right up near the top. I imagine the forums appear pretty quiet for you.

It's actually still very active, which is why I'm having these issues. If it was quiet, I really wouldn't encountering them much.

 

[Morrus]

This, incidentally, is the warning points list. You can check your own warning point total. Note that we include 'expired' warning points (an artifact from the previous boards) as we don't consider warnings as expired.

#1, #4, #7, and #9 on this list are banned. If you're in the top 10, or have 8 or more warning points, you may be a frequent "why do we keep this person around?" subject in the moderator forum.

 

[Asisreo]

It would be fun for me if I could see exactly how many people are ignoring me, but I understand why that feature is in place.

This forum is better than most others. I've said I make controversial discussions but I also try to be courteous. I do end up doing what I call "ping pong" posts where I have brief immediate back-and-forths then a long time of silence. I try to not do this but I also want to give everyone who gave me attention some discussion back.

Uhm...did I already say this in a previous reply? I think I'd have found another motive for someone blocking me if I'm as repetitive as I think I am...

 

[Alzrius]

I'm not saying this as a counterpoint, but as a curiosity: Is there a lot of "stalking" going on here on ENWorld? (I can imagine it in other places on the internet - thankfully places that I would never find myself.)

I don't know about "a lot," but one of the two people I have on ignore is a cyber-stalker who's popped up on various forums I visit to badmouth or pick fights with me, apparently still upset that I once called him out for directing hate toward another poster with a history of depression (and, if I remember correctly, suicidal ideation) on another board a number of years ago.

The other one is a far-right troll whose sole activity on this forum was to stir up trouble by presenting members of a particular minority in a bad light. (I won't go any further into which minority or how, but it was pretty ugly to witness.)

 

[Warpiglet-7]

It’s a good tool for some people—including me.

I had a bunch of ignores on a previous closed account. I now have 1? I have been removing them.

when I engage with folks and the discussion is not game related and gets personal, I block. It helps me manage my stress and keeps me from engaging...well any more than I already have by that point.

Later when I cannot recall why I got mad or it’s just time for second chances, I unblock the person. I use it to manage myself as much as the other person and as such have never been warned or banned...on any website. Maybe cautioned with a group to settle down a few times but I heed it and move on.

I think it’s a fine tool. I have no idea how many folks have blocked me but if it helps them feel better, so be it.

 

[FitzTheRuke]

I don't know about "a lot," but one of the two people I have on ignore is a cyber-stalker who's popped up on various forums I visit to badmouth or pick fights with me, apparently still upset that I once called him out for directing hate toward another poster with a history of depression (and, if I remember correctly, suicidal ideation) on another board a number of years ago.

The other one is a far-right troll whose sole activity on this forum was to stir up trouble by presenting members of a particular minority in a bad light. (I won't go any further into which minority or how, but it was pretty ugly to witness.)

Sounds terrible. Good to have the ignore for that, I would think.

I guess that's just it - Having what appears to be a "thick skin" is easy when you (and I mean me here, as well as others like me) aren't being actively oppressed.

I admit, the closest that I came to blocking someone was quite recently, and it was because the poster was actively attacking me (even going as far as to say that I was the reason that the thread sucked (or whatever was said), when I had been trying to keep the peace between posters most of the time. The poster was kicked off the thread by a mod right after, which I appreciated, because I was starting to think I had done something terribly wrong (I tend to blame myself for things).

But other than that, which I assume is pretty small as far as these things go, I honestly feel for anyone who has to put up with any kind of harassment. For any of you that do, I wish you strength.

 

[Gradine]

...and then couldn't handle what they started...

I obviously can only speak for myself, but I'd probably find it obnoxious to find myself in a conversation with someone who approaches arguments with the same attitude as a middle school playground fight.

 

[FitzTheRuke]

It’s a good tool for some people—including me.

I had a bunch of ignores on a previous closed account. I now have 1? I have been removing them.

when I engage with folks and the discussion is not game related and gets personal, I block. It helps me manage my stress and keeps me from engaging...well any more than I already have by that point.

Later when I cannot recall why I got mad or it’s just time for second chances, I unblock the person. I use it to manage myself as much as the other person and as such have never been warned or banned...on any website. Maybe cautioned with a group to settle down a few times but I heed it and move on.

I think it’s a fine tool. I have no idea how many folks have blocked me but if it helps them feel better, so be it.

That's a good attitude, and food for thought. Thanks for the tip. I might consider using it that way. I tend to try to make peace - which is probably not the best use of my time.