[OT] The Secrets of Dating, or How to Get the Girl!

[Uzumaki]

Why would I want to take care of someone elses unwanted spawn instead of my own flesh and blood? (No offense to anyone who has adopted has been adopted, btw.)

I can give you 6+ billion reasons why.

 

[Angcuru]

I can give you 6+ billion reasons why.

I pity the fool who hates his own species.

5.5 + billion of those are complete fools who go about their lives mindlessly in a herd mentality following routine and working solely for the benefit of those whom have 'employed' them. My children will not be as such, I assure you. And I will not allow an overabundance of cattle-minded fools to control my decision to be a REAL father, not an artificial one.

 

[Darrin Drader]

I think that everyone is correct who said that the best way to get a girl is to not want one in the first place. If you aren't looking they're everywhere. If you are on the prowl, you come across as being on the prowl, or worse yet, a playa. Aside from that, make friends of the opposite sex who aren't married. I mean most relationships fail sooner or later, so when you finally sind one that would be worth the effort, you wait until their current relationship falls apart and then start finding reasons to spend time together.

I met my wife at a college party after a long string of psychotic women. When I first met her, my main goal was to get as drunk as possible and then pass out in my dorm room. The next night, when I miraculously bumbed into her again, I was still out to get messed up and pass out. As it turns out, we liked some of the same things and had a lot to talk about. A couple months later and she knew what a geek I was, I found out that she actually liked scifi and played D&D. It was then I knew she was a keeper.

Other than her, I met a girl once when a friend, who was heavily into techno, dragged me off to a gay bar for the music. He's not bi, I'm not bi, but I figured I would go out and dance anyway. To fit in I was dancing with my friend. Then a couple girls (who were also not bi) asked the two of us to dance after confirming that we weren't there together. It ended up being a good time all around.

So the only advice I can give is to stop looking, but go places where you wouldn't normally go. Once you do find a women that sticks around, make sure that she doesn't try to stop you from doing the things you enjoy or otherwise try to change you.

 

[Uzumaki]

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Originally posted by Uzumaki


I can give you 6+ billion reasons why.
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Originally posted by Angcuru


I pity the fool who hates his own species.

5.5 + billion of those are complete fools who go about their lives mindlessly in a herd mentality following routine and working solely for the benefit of those whom have 'employed' them. My children will not be as such, I assure you. And I will not allow an overabundance of cattle-minded fools to control my decision to be a REAL father, not an artificial one.

I pity the fool who could be so mindlessly ignorant in public.

Do you think those two statements are connected somehow? What's your deal, dude?

 

[Angcuru]

I pity the fool who could be so mindlessly ignorant in public.

Do you think those two statements are connected somehow? What's your deal, dude?

What?

Perhaps it's lack of sleep getting to me.

 

[Gothmog]

Its true that when you aren't looking for girls, they tend to drop in your lap more often (not usually literally though). I went from the end of high school through all of undergrad and most of grad school without a girlfriend and never really wanting one (very busy with school). Only later did friends tell me that there were four women during that time who had crushes on me, but were too embarassed/intimidated/whatever to talk to me.

Now that I have a girlfriend, I find that female students in the classes I teach flirt with me, hang out in my office to talk and joke around, come up to me in public when I am out to hang out with me, etc. The weird thing is that they all know I have a girlfriend (I have a pic of her on my desk in my office) who I would never dream of cheating on. Do women find it enjoyable to tease guys who are taken, or is it something of a challenge to them to see if a guy can be coaxed away from a relationship?

As a side note, most or all of the girls who behave this way also know I am a gamer (giant d20 on my desk as well), and they think it is cool. Hell, several of them even said "sexy"!?!?! I suppose in a geeky sort of way.

 

[tarchon]

Join an on-line personals group. You have to know how to advertise though, like take my pic:

 

[Jhamin]

Do women find it enjoyable to tease guys who are taken, or is it something of a challenge to them to see if a guy can be coaxed away from a relationship?

I don't think it is (usually) anything that mean spirited.

There are as many girls terrified of guys as there are guys terrified of girls. When you believe there isn't any chance of a relationship it becomes alot easier to relax around the opposite sex. If you are at all interested in somebody, when you relax around them it becomes more obvious.

I think that (usually) it is just a matter of people being a little more free with someone they know is "safe". And that works both ways, you are probably alot more relaxed with women now that you aren't on the lookout and may therefore be noticing behaviour that was always there but you were too tense to notice.

 

[Wayside]

The weird thing is that they all know I have a girlfriend (I have a pic of her on my desk in my office) who I would never dream of cheating on. Do women find it enjoyable to tease guys who are taken, or is it something of a challenge to them to see if a guy can be coaxed away from a relationship?

That's like saying making out is just a step toward sex. These things are all valuable ends in themselves. They don't have to necessarily lead anywhere. Flirting is fun. Embrace your inner flirt.

 

[Wayside]

I pity the fool who could be so mindlessly ignorant in public.

Do you think those two statements are connected somehow? What's your deal, dude?

Neitzschean Clown Syndrome. Angcuru is big on berets and Starbucks too I hear [/kidding].

Sheep... you're alllll sheep. Bbbaaaaaa