Grendel_Khan
Hero
The post you're referencing from me is my experience from having tried things suggested in this thread.
There's a world of difference between "I've tried that and it doesn't work" and "you should stop playing in a way that works for you."
OK, then, let's get into it. Here's you in this thread.
"If you’re willing to sit and watch other people at the same table as you RP for hours on end while you do nothing but watch, knock yourself out. I have zero interest in that."
"In most team-based RPGs there are at most vignettes that don’t include most of the players. If the referee is worth their salt they’ll keep these to a minimum, keep them short and sweet, and not let players spotlight hog."
And so on. You're repeatedly talking about how the thing doesn't work, and not in a removed, detached sense. "If the referee is worth their salt" is not mildly sharing your experience. You're arguing full-force for a specific position, which also just happens to be normative and dogmatic and classic TTRPG received wisdom that's been designed around for years, for those who want to try something different. You can obviously argue whatever you want, but if you argue that a thing isn't possible, and in fact is bad GMing, and then you're met by a multitude saying they've done it, it works, etc., it's ok to just take the L and move on. No need to play the victim after specifically saying that a certain approach is not only an example of a referee who isn't worth their salt, but also players hogging the spotlight. So not just bad GMing, but bad playing. Assumptions of badness all around!