Wormwood
Adventurer
Long, rambling post ahead.
Two years ago, my gaming group of 15+ years (the Guys) broke up because of a combination of MMORPGs and real-life issues.
With one exception (me), the Guys remained in contact with each other: playing City of Heroes and World of Warcraft, weekly flag-football and Texas-Hold 'Em, even a fantasy football league. The Guys just didn't meet for tabletop RPGs any more.
I don't have time for MMORPGs, I don't play football, nor do I gamble. Since I didn't share their non-tabletop interests, only [size=+0]one member of the Guys remained close to me: Spud (not his real name, natch)
My friendship with "Spud" predates both gaming and the formation of the Guys. He's damn near family—I'd take a bullet for him, and vice versa. Spud still plays poker and football with the Guys, but I also see him every week just to hang out, maybe catch a movie or grab a beer (my wife comes along which is a huge plus, since she wasn't included when the Guys and I were gaming).
Yesterday, I got an email from one of the Guys inviting me to an upcoming 3.5 game. Against all hope, the Guys were reuniting!. This is fantastic news—my absolute favorite game with my absolute favorite gamers!
Then I read the last sentence of the email. Apparently, they were specifically *not* inviting Spud, and he was *not* to be informed the game exists. The others in the group are united in this. Spud is persona non grata where gaming is concerned.
Now, I'm the first to admit that Spud isn't one of my favorite players when it comes to roleplaying. He complains, undermines the DM, and acts like a judgemental jerk at the table. In non-gaming situations, he's a prince. Unfortunately he loves gaming, and doesn't seem to see what a jerk he is at the table.
But he's also my best friend, and the only one of the Guys to reach out to me in the past two years. I know he would be deeply hurt if he discovered we had formed game behind his back. He'd be even more hurt to find that I was playing that game.
I believe the only proper course of action would be to politely decline the invitation without telling Spud about the game. While I'm desperate to play D&D again, I'm unwilling to specifically ostracize a good friend.
Is there a solution I'm overlooking? A Third Way? Can I have my cake (Spud's friendship) and eat it too (play w/o him)?
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Two years ago, my gaming group of 15+ years (the Guys) broke up because of a combination of MMORPGs and real-life issues.
With one exception (me), the Guys remained in contact with each other: playing City of Heroes and World of Warcraft, weekly flag-football and Texas-Hold 'Em, even a fantasy football league. The Guys just didn't meet for tabletop RPGs any more.
I don't have time for MMORPGs, I don't play football, nor do I gamble. Since I didn't share their non-tabletop interests, only [size=+0]one member of the Guys remained close to me: Spud (not his real name, natch)
My friendship with "Spud" predates both gaming and the formation of the Guys. He's damn near family—I'd take a bullet for him, and vice versa. Spud still plays poker and football with the Guys, but I also see him every week just to hang out, maybe catch a movie or grab a beer (my wife comes along which is a huge plus, since she wasn't included when the Guys and I were gaming).
Yesterday, I got an email from one of the Guys inviting me to an upcoming 3.5 game. Against all hope, the Guys were reuniting!. This is fantastic news—my absolute favorite game with my absolute favorite gamers!
Then I read the last sentence of the email. Apparently, they were specifically *not* inviting Spud, and he was *not* to be informed the game exists. The others in the group are united in this. Spud is persona non grata where gaming is concerned.
Now, I'm the first to admit that Spud isn't one of my favorite players when it comes to roleplaying. He complains, undermines the DM, and acts like a judgemental jerk at the table. In non-gaming situations, he's a prince. Unfortunately he loves gaming, and doesn't seem to see what a jerk he is at the table.
But he's also my best friend, and the only one of the Guys to reach out to me in the past two years. I know he would be deeply hurt if he discovered we had formed game behind his back. He'd be even more hurt to find that I was playing that game.
I believe the only proper course of action would be to politely decline the invitation without telling Spud about the game. While I'm desperate to play D&D again, I'm unwilling to specifically ostracize a good friend.
Is there a solution I'm overlooking? A Third Way? Can I have my cake (Spud's friendship) and eat it too (play w/o him)?
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